male patient asking about etiquette

  1. Howdy,

    This is a serious question (to me), but an excellent opportunity for light replies.
    I'm a middle-aged male who has just started
    having a LOT of medical experience (on the recieving end, naturally!) I've asked this question of my mother and 2 aunts who were all nurses, and got 3 different answers!

    Everybody knows erections are natural and normal, and nurses (male and female) are not there to fulfill fantasies... but, do I stare at the ceiling, pretend I don't notice anything, apologize or whistle Dixie or talk about the Mariners or what?

    Do females in general think I'm being disrespectful? Do males think I'm assuming they're gay?

    Just for my own information, I'm trying to figure out the best way to deal with this.

    P.S. I couldn't find any info on this from Miss Manners or Dear Abby columns!

    Dave McGee
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  3. by   bluesboyj
    Well, I've never had this experience with any of the male pts. I've dealt with in the last 15+ yrs. And I can't speak for my female coworkers, but as a male RN, I wouldn't assume anything because I've learned assuming things will only bite you in the ass in the end. Remember assume makes an ass out of u and me. Request that the curtain bedrawn and makes sure you have private, uninterrupted times, where you will be left undisturbed by staff/visitors.
    Hope this helps.

    If Ya' Don't Love The Blues, Ya' Got A Hole In Your Soul
  4. by   Erbn Girl
    Do I think you are being disrespectful? No. I am a female RN and I feel it is just part of human behavior, in your case male behavior. Since you have done nothing to act upon this behavior, nor made any comments for any nurse to think otherwise, just chalk it up to a little discomfort/embarrassment on your part. I commend you for bringing this topic out in the open for discussion. It is good to hear from those on the "other" side of the hospital curtain!
  5. by   NurseBoy
    In Australia we keep a dead fish handy for these occasions. Crude, but effective...
  6. by   Linda, CCRN
    May i ask, in what capacity do you use the dead fish?