Is this normal for a Dr.?

  1. Hello everyone! I don't post very often but I am learning so much from these message boards! I will graduate from nursing school this summer. And yes, it still feels like an eternity. I have a question and I'd really like to hear your opinions from a nursing point of view and from a mom's view, for those of you with children. Ok, you have a young mom (29) and a young male pediatrician (33), both married. The Dr. spends a lot of time in the room with this mom. Do you think it's strange for the doc to compliment the mom everytime she is there? For example, telling her how funny, smart, pretty, she is. Also, would it be weird for him to tell her what great hair she has and proceed to touch her hair (while standing about 3 inches from her face!)? Have you ever seen this kind of thing and is this normal behavior for young docs? opinions please.........By the way, I work in pediatrics. Thanks! :uhoh21:
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  3. by   jeepgirl
    that's weird.
  4. by   Speculating
    Quote from hotnurse
    Hello everyone! I don't post very often but I am learning so much from these message boards! I will graduate from nursing school this summer. And yes, it still feels like an eternity. I have a question and I'd really like to hear your opinions from a nursing point of view and from a mom's view, for those of you with children. Ok, you have a young mom (29) and a young male pediatrician (33), both married. The Dr. spends a lot of time in the room with this mom. Do you think it's strange for the doc to compliment the mom everytime she is there? For example, telling her how funny, smart, pretty, she is. Also, would it be weird for him to tell her what great hair she has and proceed to touch her hair (while standing about 3 inches from her face!)? Have you ever seen this kind of thing and is this normal behavior for young docs? opinions please.........By the way, I work in pediatrics. Thanks! :uhoh21:

    Yes, a bit weird. But, it's nobodies business.
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    inappropriate behavior.
  6. by   eltrip
    Sound like he's hitting on you, IMO.
  7. by   all4babies
    Agree - inappropriate, especially the touching.
  8. by   hammer91b
    I've been in the medical profession for 10 years and have experienced this kind of behavior more than once(and this is in the military...so you can imagine...) The truth is, working in such a "fast-paced" environment, not to mention long hours, takes its toll on relationships. You begin to build a bond with those who understand and experience the stressors of the occupation. I never was one to say "stop" or report this kind of behavior and because of my ignorance and other's ignorance this behavior has almost become acceptable. There is also the fear of standing up to a Doctor, who is probably your boss. You decide how you want to take these "advances", blow them off...accept the compliments...take the "talking" a step further...but know that someone may be hurt if this continues and that you have the power to stop this and report this kind of behavior. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone...
  9. by   camay1221_RN
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    inappropriate behavior.

    DITTO!!!
  10. by   pediatriclpn
    inappropriate behavior :uhoh21:
  11. by   KRVRN
    Yes, inappropriate. Moreso because this sounds like a mom of a pt to this pediatrician (or am I interpreting this wrong?). He is violating the line between doctor and pt.
  12. by   dbsn00
    Inappropriate & unprofessional!
  13. by   elizabells
    Quote from dbsn00
    Inappropriate & unprofessional!
    all of the above and . . . eeeeeewwwwwwwwwww :uhoh21: creeeeeepy!
  14. by   hotnurse
    You are interpreting it correctly. :uhoh21:

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