I snapped - page 6
Well, I have just completed the most hellish evening of work I have ever done in my years of nursing. I went of the deep end, and I am feeling just totally disgusted with myself, I ... Read More
Jun 22, '02Joined: Oct '01; Posts: 974; Likes: 52ok so you got a little out of hand and acted by instinct. since she is going to tell on you anyway and you are already in trouble why not just go in and beat the shyt out of her?
Jun 22, '02Joined: Dec '01; Posts: 3,165; Likes: 59Oh, yeah I know that look well, but I haven't had to use it in awhile....
My first husband called it the "Death Glare."
But I don't have the energy anymore to let anyone pizz me off that bad; guess I'm getting old.
Jun 22, '02Occupation: RN - College Health Specialty: Geriatrics/Oncology/Psych/College Health ; Joined: Jun '02; Posts: 6,584; Likes: 70One nurse I worked with had a solution that might perhaps work for you in the future. She had a Bertha. Once, when Bertha had just finally driven her nearly off the deep end, she just looked st her (I suppose in retrospect it was the look of doom) and said *very quietly* "I don't think you and I should see or speak to each other for quite a while." With the proper withering glare applied, it can make the offending party back off and give you some much needed time to reflect on how you will better word your displeasure at whatever the specific back-breaking straw was.
Naturally, once one is already driven over the cliff, this solution doesn't work.
I feel for you. I think any one of us, given the proper stimulus of stress and frustration, might have it in us to respond as you did. It's unpleasant to admit, but it also gives us even more reason to respect our interactions with co-workers and treat them more humanely (just in case we are unwittingly playing the Bertha role in some professional relationship!
Jun 22, '02Joined: Jan '02; Posts: 5,673; Likes: 159Originally posted by Nurse Ratched
I think any one of us, given the proper stimulus of stress and frustration, might have it in us to respond as you did. It's unpleasant to admit, but it also gives us even more reason to respect our interactions with co-workers and treat them more humanely (just in case we are unwittingly playing the Bertha role in some professional relationship!
I can imagine this is true particularly in a smaller LTC where there may be only two nurses on duty..... it is easier on a big hospital ward to avoid a 'Bertha' coworker.
Doctors seem to 'lose it' in the hospital... more so than nurses.......I have seen charts flung at a nurse with the death glare attached... been called down to OB to help frightened nurses dodging flying instruments thrown by an irate obstetrician.(we call 'em 'code whites'...the nurses called a code on a doc!) I bet many of us have seen docs out of control....and it seems to be tolerated...they may get a slap on the wrist from administration...that's all.
Thank you for your kind words Peeps and Brownie, and I thank you all for your tolerance ...I'm an old nurse 'set in my ways' and it's not always pretty, I know.Thanks for the reality check! :roll