I feel like ****...

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I'm a nursing student but again posted this topic in this section because you are all very experienced and intelligent. So here it goes:

I attend a university for nursing, and I absolutely love the program. The faculty members are phenomenal and they also have tremendous support for me to succeed in this program because I have a hearing disability. I'm beyond grateful to have their support. I was born deaf in both ears and got a Cochlear Implant so I can hear everything now.

But in the school, it's almost over (two more weeks until exams) and I still have not made any friends. Not even a single friend. Let me elaborate. I've added the new friends I've made on my Facebook and whenever they are online, I would initiate a conversation to, you know, make new friends. That works but the problem is that they NEVER initiate a conversation with me. Never. Not even once. Sometimes people would come up to me and say, "hi" and that's it. They would walk away and sit in a different seat. Because of my hearing disability, my speech sounds a bit different (it's now worse but I will have speech therapy soon to rectify the problem) and I've noticed that when I'm in school and I go up to people to chat, they are like, "what?" As in they don't understand me a bit and they seem to be a bit lazy. For example, I asked a girl beside me in a lecture, "is that our professor?" and she said, "yea....wait what? What did you say?" People don't seem to be putting in an effort in making a conversation with me with my hearing loss.

Also, every time I go to lectures, I've noticed that when my nursing classmates are with their circle of friends. Always. I have seen a few nursing students who come in alone but they will end up sitting with their friends in the lecture. I've always sat alone. There's one girl who I like and we are kinda "friends" but whenever she sees me sitting alone, she would say "hey how are you? blah blah blah" and then sit next to me. I would be so happy until HER friends come in and then she moves to a different seat to be with them. This happens to me every single time. Everywhere I go, I see nursing students with their circle of friends and I have no one literally. I'm a HUGE introvert but nonetheless I always make an effort to make new friends or talk to people.

I think it's because of my hearing disability.

How about getting active in school activities? I mean, you can always join school clubs and organizations. And score high in your exams, I am sure they'll be asking your name afterwards. Have fun.

Specializes in LTC Rehab Med/Surg.

I've found that people are uncomfortable with those who are disabled.

I think it's the awkward factor. We're presented with a person/situation that's unfamiliar, and we're afraid we'll say or do the wrong thing. It's just easier to avoid the person/situation.

Being a nurse has cured me of a lot of those fears. Awkward situations seem never ending in the nursing field. I also have a disabled daughter, and watch the way people interact with her. I can always tell the ones who have experience with people who are different. Nurses almost always act naturally and friendly with her.

As far as the friend thing goes, I simply can't relate. I have co-workers, acquaintances, and family. I have sisters and brothers who are my best friends. It feels like a high school thing to acquire "friends" like trophies. Also high schoolish to feel less because you have no "friends".

Wow, such wise words from all of you! Thank you so much. You're right - nursing school is hard and the first we need to focus on is studies. I am lucky that I have one friend but sometimes I would feel lonely whenever I see someone in my nursing classes going up to a person to start a conversation easily. I can't do that. I cannot just go up to the person easily and start a conversation because I'm a huge introvert.

I hope that when the right time comes, I'll have plenty of friends.

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