I dropped out. Please console me

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JettRNurse

25 Posts

Specializes in Telemetry, Psych.

When you get to heaven, will you look back and regret electing to take more time for yourself instead of doing something that is making you miserable? I say drop out, take time to be uniquely you!

Specializes in ICU.

I can totally relate to this post - as I am going through the same siuation right now. Although, I am in an RN-to-BSN program. I am really trying to trudge forward, though, because I only have 7 weeks left. Like you, I am used to being an 'A' student. However, I have been in school almost non-stop for 25+ years. I am burnt-out. I used to not mind writing papers, but my brain is mush and I am feeling really incompetent. I wish I never went straight from my nursing program to RN-to-BSN.

I believe you are making the right choice. Enjoy your life and career right now and then go back when you are ready and refreshed. An all online course may not be right for you. I started off with a hybrid course first. After learning how to navigate that, I was able to take a couple 100% online classes afterwards.

neverbethesame

89 Posts

You are very brave!!! I think that there is greater strength in walking away from something we know is bad for us, be it a job, romantic relationship or school. Your physical, mental and emotional health is far more valuable than a scholarship. You did the right thing.

Specializes in CCM, PHN.

Wow. Thank you, sincerely, from the heart of my bottom, for l these supportive replies. This was SUCH a tough decision to make at the age of 39. But part of getting older is learning that 'quality of life' is actually important. This is a hard lesson for a lot of us nurses to learn, as many of us tend to take care of everyone but ourselves.

My BSN program was awful, then I worked a series of meat-grinder RN jobs (see my other posts) while going through a horrific divorce that dragged on for years. Of course it involved property during the real estate crash & a cheating spouse. My health took a huge nosedive & my finances collapsed. So yeah. My life is finally, much to my grateful disbelief, piecing itself back together and turning around to face the sun again. I want so much to just relax, enjoy, and walk it off.

So thanks again, for any reassurance that it is OKAY to put school on hold. I hope this also serves as inspiration, even a little bit, to anyone else struggling with the same issue. Life is SHORT and GRAND. Enjoy the good bits.

joanna73, BSN, RN

4,767 Posts

Specializes in geriatrics.

Priorities change as we get older, and many of us tend to want to slow down and actually enjoy a balanced life, rather than running at top speed all the time. I know this is true for me.

We spend so much of our energy taking care of others and we forget about ourselves. You know what's right for you, OP, so take the time you need to recharge your batteries.

wincha

339 Posts

It's just not the right time in your life you have identified that you need classroom learning, you are enjoying your life now and like your job. Plus finances are good for you now. Sounds like you should embrace what is good in your life and let this go. Stop and smell the flowers, sound like you are pushing yourself too much and realize it also.

Specializes in Operating Room.

You did the right thing,OP. It's not a good time for this for you right now. Why do something that is making you that unhappy? I'm sure the point of this was to better your life, not make you miserable. Regroup, and then decide if you want to pursue it later.

Roseyposey

394 Posts

I'm sorry, I am going to be the meanie here. Really? You had a scholarship and just decided to give up? I'm sorry, I am not going to give you permission to flush that down the toilet. You should have at least finished the semester on good standing; that way you may have been able to enter in later and finish. It is a shame that you got a scholarship and then decided the timing wasn't right. It could have gone to someone who needed it. Okay, flame away.

Specializes in Orthopedic, LTC, STR, Med-Surg, Tele.

It's ok :) one of the best pieces of advice that I've ever gotten is "listen to what your body is telling you". Granted, that's with regard to long distance running, but it applies to everything! It sounds like you were just not into it at this time, and that's fine.

Specializes in CCM, PHN.
I'm sorry I am going to be the meanie here. Really? You had a scholarship and just decided to give up? I'm sorry, I am not going to give you permission to flush that down the toilet. You should have at least finished the semester on good standing; that way you may have been able to enter in later and finish. It is a shame that you got a scholarship and then decided the timing wasn't right. It could have gone to someone who needed it. Okay, flame away.[/quote']

Where did I indicate I DIDN'T finish the semester in good standing? Show me where I said that.

Tait, MSN, RN

2,140 Posts

Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.

While I have to say the title of this thread has made me cringe every time I cruise over it, something about being asked for consolation, I think you have your path set clear and logically. When I decided to stay home with my first daughter and just do "mom and school" I felt school was my magical connection to still working. While it has been that for me, I am now a few weeks out from graduation with my MSN and delivering our last child. Part of me has been stressing that it "isn't ok" for me to be home with Em and El and NOT be in school. In fact a DNP program just called me a few days ago to discuss my next course of education. I had to sit and think quietly for a time and then email them to say, you know I am just not ready to move on yet. Life requires us to monitor and maintain and that is a GOOD thing :)

Best of luck,

Tait

Roseyposey

394 Posts

Where did I indicate I DIDN'T finish the semester in good standing? Show me where I said that.

"After one failed semester." Maybe I misunderstood this statement and you passed your semester and then withdrew. If so, I am terribly sorry and apologize. You shouldn't feel guilty if you passed all of your classes and then formally withdrew; you can probably pick up again at a later time.

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