How To Handle?

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Scrubby

1,313 Posts

Specializes in Operating Room Nursing.

I can see from reading your posts that the issue is still bothering you. It would probably annoy me as well! I think you need to discuss with your manager that her actions were completely inappropriate. If she doesn't apologize then i would be speaking to your HR department about it and would seek mediation or something. It is also a good idea to clarify the attendance issues you have had, try and clear your name.

Also wouldn't hurt to remind your manager that criticising someone in front of others is a form of bullying as well.

Ahhphoey

370 Posts

Specializes in ICU, M/S,Nurse Supervisor, CNS.

Sorry you're having such trouble with your direct supervisor, kinda makes it a not-so-happy place to work. I would definitely talk to her about announcing your personal business in front of patients and visitors. I had an issue like this with one of my managers in the past. I was new to the unit and still learning the routine and in the middle of the nurses station that had doctors, transport people, and other nurses, she loudly told me about something I'd done wrong the day before. She has a naturally loud voice, so it wasn't like she was purposely being loud, but it was still a very inappropriate time. I just kinda nodded and walked by her, but later confronted her in private about what she'd done. I felt if I didn't address it then and nip it in the bud, she would feel it was okay to talk about personal issues with me in front of all my peers. Well, she apologized and actually said she occasionally just doesn't think before she talks, but knew she was wrong right after she'd said it. She was a genuinely nice person who sometimes just didn't realize how her words or timing could affect others.

In your case though, I would talk to both your manager and direct supervisor at the same time and just get everything out on the table. She may just not realize how her words can be taken...or then again she could just be a real witch! Either way, if you don't say anything, that gives her the okay to treat you however she wants. I'm a pretty quiet person, but I never hesitate to confront someone when they've treated me wrong. It just shows people you are not to be disrespected or walk over.

Susan9608

205 Posts

For my evaluation, I was given some paper work to fill out. One of the questions asks, "How can your supervisor and manager help you do a better job?"

I wrote some stuff, and then added at the end, "when there is a problem with any part of my performance, approach me privately and not while I'm engaged in patient care."

If neither she nor my manager says anything about that in m eval, I'll talk to her about it afterwards.

Thanks for all the opinions; I appreciate everyone's time.

caliotter3

38,333 Posts

She was inappropriate and unprofessional. Your second post describing the break room incident clinched it for me. This person obviously does not have much respect for you. Her timing with the remark also caught me. Just before your evaluation? Chances are more than high that this will be an issue. It reminds me of my first 90 day evaluation that was done by someone who was not my regular supervisor, but who had come over to help out from another shift. She criticized me on a couple of things, which I took note of. I also noticed that she didn't say a word to the employee that was up for firing for poor performance. Lo and behold, my performance review read like I was dirt on the floor. My normal supervisor had to get involved. Whenever you are advised of something just before your performance evaluation you can bet a paycheck that you will see this issue when you get the evaluation. The time to prepare your response is now and have it ready.

It certainly sounds like she has a problem with you, Susan. I don't know how to advise you, though. I'm lousy at this sort of thing.

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