How to handle being bullied by nurse manager and colleagues?

  1. There have been many threads about violence in the work place. I never experienced so much teenage drama until I began to work at this facility. I have been called a number of names to my face told to shut the f***up. I was told I do not belong here anymore. Others nurses told me to find a new job they do not want you here some nurses and managers are trying make you leave. What am I suppose to do?
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  3. by   CrunchRN
    Go to HR to start.
  4. by   Been there,done that
    This is beyond lateral violence.

    Either leave, or find out why you are being targeted to this extreme.
  5. by   luv2
    I was told they find different targets. Usually the person leave from the pressure of being bullied or he/she make a mistake so they are able to fire the nurse or cna .
  6. by   hherrn
    I guess I don't understand the question.
    3 choices.
    1. Change the culture of the place.
    2. Accept it.
    3. Leave.

    #1 seems unlikely.
  7. by   KatieMI
    Leave it ASAP. And then make the place and unit's name known far and wide.
  8. by   luv2
    I would LOVE TO LEAVE, but there is no way I could get another job without a letter of recommendation from a manager. They way the culture at my job is right now that is impossible so i am trying to transfer to another floor so i could get my letter from another manager.
  9. by   luv2
    I need to get out first.
  10. by   KatieMI
    Yes, you can.

    I was terminated from the unit where the NM openly named me "dirty foreigner soiling this country's air", among other things. There was no talk about any letters, of course. I called the first nursing agency I found on Craiglist which offered something in the area I live. They did not care about my last job, termination and all that, they only need a warm body with license and heart beating to fill the shifts. They were fine with letters from school and from previous jobs' staff nurses, nothing from managers. As soon as I passed drug test, I had three PRN offers. I took all three and worked just one shift a week in each facility. I liked one of them and became staff after a few month without any interviews, letters and other paper junk.

    If you still have someone at all on friendly notes with you, ask these people about a good letter. If they are staff RNs, it's OK. Tell them you need money and want per diem job in another place. Then leave immediately, and let everybody you know to never, ever go to this place for medical care.
  11. by   llg
    Quote from luv2
    I would LOVE TO LEAVE, but there is no way I could get another job without a letter of recommendation from a manager. They way the culture at my job is right now that is impossible so i am trying to transfer to another floor so i could get my letter from another manager.
    Transferring is a form of leaving. You need to leave, even if it means making a sacrifice to do it. The situation will not improve and by staying, you risk being fired -- which will make getting a new job even more difficult.
  12. by   luv2
    Thank you for the advice I will try that one. i hope they do not ask for a letter of recommendation. I will ask around.
  13. by   luv2
    I can not afford to do that I wish to God I had the money to walk out. I do not have to support my family and I am the only one working I can not afford I put the numbers together.
  14. by   KatieMI
    Luv2,

    I thought so too, and in addition it was, or what I thought to be, my absolutely 110% dream job. I needed money, I had no support, and had 100500 more of VERY important reasons to be a fool that I was.

    In half a year after that all happened I was working in a place which is in any aspect unlike to the latter one, and I felt at home there and was making more money. And only one question I had was: why was I such an idiot that I spent two months of my life suffering every day, letting those (insert your definition of bad guys here) treat me like **** and every second trying to mollify and satisfy those (insert the definition above) with kindness and politeness and in every way imaginable instead of just telling them all to go (you know where) and close the door with great bang?

    Good luck and hugs to you, you will find your place, and it will be the one you least expected to be, ever!

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