Having a really hard time after today - page 2

Hi Everyone, I had one of those days where I know I did what a patient wanted, but I'm still crying about it. I had an older male pt with respiratory disease (end stage). Pt was supposed to go... Read More

  1. by   lisamc1RN
    What an emotionally exhausting day! ((((hugs)))) You done good! It can be so good to just release all that pent up emotion with tears.
  2. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from lamazeteacher
    I'd like to share a story about a young man who related a special insight he had, when he saw his baby born. I'll never forget how meaningful it was for me, too. He said that having seen his baby come from a state that appeared like death to him - blue, limp, seemingly lifeless - to having muscular strength, moving, breathing, reactive, with awareness. It would be impossible, this young father said, to view it as anything but wondrous; and if coming from death to life was like that, he wouldn't ever think that the reverse, going from life to death, was any less amazing and beautiful!
    so very true, lamaze.

    birth and death are the 2 life events that elicit such depth of emotions as they do.
    both are truly an awe-inspiring phenomenon, that will evoke our most primal of responses.

    there is nothing in life, that compares to the two.

    leslie
  3. by   AlabamaBelle
    Quote from leslie :-D
    so very true, lamaze.

    birth and death are the 2 life events that elicit such depth of emotions as they do.
    both are truly an awe-inspiring phenomenon, that will evoke our most primal of responses.

    there is nothing in life, that compares to the two.

    leslie

    And, as nurses, we are allowed to participate in the two most intimate moments of our human experience. It's a blessing to witness.
  4. by   JB2007
    I feel for you. You had a very emotionally exhausting day and that is allowed. I work in LTC so I see a lot of death since I have started in healthcare. Some deaths seem to hit harder than others. I have not been able to figure out why, but some just do.

    You did an excellant job taking care of your patient. Now do something nice for yourself. Something that will let you relaxe and destress. Take care and thanks for taking good care of your patient.
  5. by   meadow85
    I'm sorry. I think you handled the situation well though and he had a good death.
  6. by   Virgo_RN
    Quote from Sonjailana
    I was upset because it was an emotionally taxing day..and I was grieving for a patient. That's allowed.

    Thanks for the hugs!
    I didn't mean to sound insensitive. I simply meant that because the culmination of all your efforts was a positive outcome, a peaceful death surrounded by loved ones, that perhaps some comfort could be taken from that.
  7. by   justiceforjoy
    Big hugs to you -- it sounds like you did an amazing job with this patient! I can only dream of getting a nurse like you if I ever find myself in that same position.
  8. by   SunnyAndrsn
    What a rotten day :-( Even though he didn't get to go home to die, he was able to have family with him, and how nice that they knew and understood the pt's wishes.

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