Is this an everyday thing? A stress thing?
Does she say "I'm Mary RN, your f******nurse for this shift. Now let's get our s*** together and get some d***** work done around this h***hole we call our f****** job.:smiley_ab
Personally, I'm not a nurse because it's a calling or anything. It's a job, and a good one. So, my limited experience tells me that she could be having a huge adjustment problem -- it's a shock to go from the gilded cages of nursing school to the blood and guts hard work of a busy unit. In school our instructors told us that our "sheer joy of helping" would be our reward and nursing is a 'benevolent' act. Right, but a girl's gotta eat, and pay the bills, and support the kids, too.
So maybe you can tactfully
ask her if her language has always mirrored that of a longshoreman or if it's the stress of a new job. Not in the condescending way we all have experienced and disliked, but out of concern about how she is adjusting to the rigors of unit life. We all know, it isn't pretty.
She could be venting -- we're all human and need to vent. Is she screaming about every single patient or is she just nervous and trying to hide it?
Perhaps when you have a quiet, unhurried moment to talk to her you can mention her language demeans her qualifications as a highly educated, intelligent person with a job which demands incredible responsibility.
It is a hard job -- there is a lot of weight put on our shoulders and very little authority. That in inself is a recipe for foul-mouthed venting.
I'm no innocent -- I've been known to let loose the occasional four letter word myself -- behind closed doors. My so-called friends went directly to my unit manager instead of me, and I've never trusted them since then. (I ended up leaving not long after anyway.) I have kids, and a temper, and thankfully they don't cross very often. If I find myself coming unglued I'll plug the kids into an Elmo video (they're only 2) and literally step out into the cold air (6 degrees right now) to cool off for a few seconds. A few deep breaths of that painfully cold air will drive your right back inside.
I've also been known to break down and sob -- again, behind closed doors, because the stress of the job is sometimes overwhelming and scary.
We all have our faults and our fears and our worries. We all want to do the best we can and be accepted and cared for by our co-workers. Perhaps this is a usual way of communicating in the nurse's home. A little TLC with a person like this goes a much longer way then telling her to shut the f@@@ up -- as much as you'd like to!