I feel a little like a fish out of water here. I have been following this site for some time. I do believe you call them lurkers.
I have followed it because my daughter decided to go to nursing school and I thought this would be a good place to find out the real information about the profession. Well, it has been. Good and bad. I want to say to each and every one of you that you are amazing in your support and compassion to each member in this community. I need advice concerning my expectations as a parent of a nursing student. She will be graduating in May 2014 with a BSN from Ohio State. She will be 22 when she graduates. She has been a great kid. I have paid for her schooling. I did it by starting a savings fund when she was born. I am one of those parents who said your job is school even though she has held part time jobs. She works part time at Ohio State's hospital. My parental brain is now saying it is time to apply to jobs and apply for a residency and see if you can get it. I have talked to her and I feel like she is burned out from 17 straight years of schooling and may need a break. I guess I need some advice. Do I just back off ? Am I the only parent like this ? I know some of you must have children in college. I am not sure why part of me continually pushes. I hope it's because I want the best for her. I don't want to push her away. Thank you for reading and again you guys really are great. I hope each of you knows how fortunate you are to have a place to talk or just vent if you need it. Jim
Mar 24, '14
"My advice is to back off and let her enjoy at least one summer of her own time, especially if she took summer classes. Maybe encourage her to look into getting a job as a student nurse at a summer camp while she prepares for NCLEX. While it is nice that you want her to get a job asap, I would let her take a little bit of time. It is hard for new grads however I think Ohio State has enough sway to influence hospitals to at least interview her since their program is super tough. The last thing you want is for her to suffer a bad burnout and hate whatever job she takes.
While the fear of old new grad status is very real, I would be very scared of her burning out and hating the field too. Also, she will probably have at least 1 month before she can take the NCLEX and get her license. I'm in Ohio and it took me a month and two weeks to be able to test. However, I had already secured a job and instead spent that time working my butt off at my ER before I switched to the ICU. I did take a mini vacation up to Michigan though and I enjoyed seeing the sights around there.
If you could afford it, could you afford to send her on a brief mini-vacation after graduation? Like maybe her and 1 friend? Or give her money for a brief vacation as a graduation present? I'd think about it and let her know asap since sometimes you have to request time off months in advance with hospitals (we already have May's schedule out)."
Jim, one of the benefits of AN.com is that all of us give our best opinions, no holds barred.
Did YOU take a year off between college & working because your parents felt that you might be burnt-out?
Do most folks have to earn their own keep as soon as they're able?
Is it character-building to be self-supporting as soon as you're able?
The fact is that your daughter is extremely fortunate to have such a supportive father. In fact, you might be surprised at how many of her peers will graduate (unlike her) with mountains of student loan debt. Ask her. You have already done SO much for your daughter - pamper her much more and you might be well on your way to creating a monster.
Please do not take the joy of self-sufficiency away from her. Allow her to experience the empowerment of success in her chosen field. EVERYONE feels exhausted after completing a degree! It's totally normal!
Let your daughter earn and pay for her own vacation! It's the best parenting decision you'll ever make. And it will be the best vacation your daughter will ever take. One that SHE earned, all by herself.
Last edit by roser13 on Mar 24, '14