Jun 24, '09
Quote from gomer42
to answer your question. i am trying to be vague about what happened so he will not be identified. but...yes it was something just as severe as a seizure at work . someting associated with occassional dt's. i am trying to be vague to protect him. and when i say he was caught redhanded...he was. he showed up to work and took report on some very very sickkk....sick patients. he was dog drunk...slurred speech...whiskey on his breath. he was told to clock out and one of us would drive him home. i drove him home....and when i got there....his whole place had botlles everywhere. the kids acted like it was no big deal. they didnt look at their dad like anything was different. this was " normal" to them. i feel llike a dog. i know cps could be called in. i knowit. i know it and i am sick. i keep thinking wth did i miss? i feel like i should have seen something taht gave me concrete proof before this. everytime i asked i wasnt accusatory...i keep thinking...i should have seen something before this. i should have known. now ...i keep thinking....maybe i could have done sometiing different. i keep asking myself...did i do the right thing? he refused help....he said he could " handle it". i didnt want him killing one of our patients...or his own kids finding him dead. dont you think i know what this is going to do to him? i know it. i feel horrible....i do. i feel like i should have seen that there was a major problem before he showed up dog drunk so bad he couldnt walk. wth did i miss? when i asked...i wasnt accusatory. he knows i was his friend no matter what. now...i think ...i should have been more accusatory...maybe then it wouldnt have got this bad. maybe if i had come to his house more often to hang out it wouldnt have happened or he wouldnt have gotten this bad off...or maybe i would have seen before it got this bad. i dont know....did i do the right thing? the hospital is only worried about reporting him to the board. i am worried about his kids finding him dead. i didnt know what to do. i dont know.....i hope i did the right thing. i just dont want those kids finding him dead.....and that is a real possibility.
what do you mean he got caught red-handed?
you either have a seizure or you don't
it is hard to say whether or not you did the right thing. but one thing is for sure, you did it with the best of intentions. our idea of what an addiction is or a problem is subjective. if he is visibly impaired there is a problem, however, if he is having a couple drinks i see no big deal.
realize that in trying to help him, this may also be putting his job in jeopardy and could possibly have his kids placed with cps, so be sure that his drinking is a true problem.
it is nice that he has such a concerned friend. don't be intimidated by his anger. try to be supportive rather than accusatory and perhaps he'll be more open to hearing your thoughts.
Last edit by Keysnurse2008 on Jun 24, '09
: Reason: to be vague about persons idenity