Dear Nurses: Please Forgive Me - page 3

Dear floor, ED and ICU nurses, Please forgive me. I know he's dying. I get it. I do. We were told five years. Five years on an outlier and he would be gone. We were told transplant was an... Read More

  1. by   Esme12
    Quote from Guttercat
    I totally get that. Oh boy, do I ever get that.

    2008 for me.

    And Cheesepotato's post made me choke up, too.
    .....I'm sorry. sniffle....
  2. by   kvinnaRN
    So true.
    Excellent reminder. Thank you.
  3. by   tewdles
    Your essay is my professional life...from the other perspective. All of my patients die and all of the family members are somewhere in their grief. Many of the families have a nurse or other health professional in the midst because of the employment mix of the region.

    Go gently, live each day with the goal of no regrets...not today, not tomorrow, not 6 months from now. Be "in the moment" with your loved one. Breathe.
  4. by   ElizaW
    I wasn't planning to be moved to tears when I logged on this afternoon. Daggnabbit.
  5. by   WordWrangler
    Love to you.
  6. by   NerdyNikki
    Much love and God's peace to you. As a critical care nurse, this seen is relived before me many days. As yourself, I also understand because I have been there not to longer with a family member myself. As hard as it is, please allow yourself to remember the good memories. Also, though it will take time, I thank God for my loved one not suffering any more. Again much love and comfort to you during this time. God bless you : )
  7. by   proudauntie415
    I am going to print this out, and post it at the nurses station.

    Everytime we have one of those days where we may feel "this job" is ridiculous we should read this and remember this is more then a job....these are peoples lives and why we got into this field in the first place.

    May God watch over you and your family and guide you through this troubling time.

    God Bless
  8. by   LCinTraining
    Your plight is beautifully written. It makes me raw. I just lost the man who gave me my husband in May. I did the same things. I fussed. I meddled. God, I couldn't bear to lose him. He may have been an in law, but the emphasis was on FATHER. He accepted me as his own. He was actually closer to me than my own father.My heart goes out to you. I feel your pain. I lived every word of your post. You are strong. But this is tough. I have no magic words, but know you are in my thoughts.
  9. by   ktwlpn
    Peace to you....
  10. by   CheesePotato
    To those who have responded and have suffered a loss of their own:

    My deepest condolences. Of all the things I wish would build camaraderie, how I wish it didn't have to be something like this.


    Do not apologize for the length of your post. Your words were perfect and your story a sharing of your courageous heart. When others would withdraw, you returned and that, my friend, is the very hallmark of integrity. Believe me when I say they remember you, even if your name has faded from their minds.


    And no, there is no clean cut way for this to progress. He, himself, is no longer sure how he wishes his care to continue and in what manner. Advocacy when the answers are cut and dry is easy. Advocacy when the wishes vacillate from day to day is a nightmare. And I will do nothing if not carry out his desires, be it intubation and suspension of life or a place in Hospice.

    If I fail to uphold his desires, what good am I?

    After all, it is not our place as nurses to pass judgment on the progression of care; rather, it is our place to uphold those choices, protect, guard, and keep them when everyone else shies away--regardless of our personal hang-ups and beliefs. I speak for those whose voice is silenced.

    I am the Lorax, I speak for the trees.


    Inappropriate humor is inappropriate.

    I....I am so sorry.
  11. by   LCinTraining
    Actually, I think your quote was rather fitting.
  12. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from CheesePotato
    Thank you for your kind words and prayers.

    Well would you let me hug you, cuz I feel like we both could use a good cry.

  13. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from FDW630
    Nothing like a 7am cry to wake you up. That was a stunning article. I am but a lowly nursing student, and I can assure you I will NEVER forget this story. Thank you so much for sharing it. (((Hugs)))
    NEVER lowly. Never ever. You are in such a great position right now to really get it, or not. It sounds like you get it. (((Hugs)))