Dating a former patient - page 5

Hello, I am an LPN in Canada working at a mental health facility. I met a patient nearly a year ago whom I had a totally unexpected connection with. It isn't something I was seeking out and never... Read More

  1. by   Ben_Dover
    OP... So let's say a great friend of yours or a co-worker or one of your family members is in this same exact type of situation, what advice or recommendations will you give them?

    It'd be interesting to know your response!
  2. by   Apple-Core
    Quote from Ben_Dover
    OP... So let's say a great friend of yours or a co-worker or one of your family members is in this same exact time of situation, what advice or recommendations will you give them?

    It'd be interesting to know your response!
    That is EXACTLY what I was going to ask.

    My thoughts....big no-no. Not worth the potential ramifications, which could be many!
  3. by   DnCali
    Keeping it simple...NO!
  4. by   poopylala
    What the actual ****.. No! This is a patient, former or otherwise, and that is a very unique position to be in. They trust in you to care for them and you are supposed to be the one responsible for them. They are in a vulnerable position and should always remain on the other side of the boundary. This is a huge red flag to me that you don't see the difference between dating someone who had their arm broken and dating someone who was inpatient psych. Not because he was psych but because it was only a year ago that you were in the care provider role for him!! I wouldn't come near anything romantic with any former patient with a 10 foot pole. Not even a patient's sibling. It's too much of a risk. Yes, psych is not life-defining but it kind of is when it comes to nurses dating former psych patients. You came here for advice or support and we're giving you our thoughts. If you don't want to hear people not validating your thoughts, then don't post asking something that it seems deep down you know might be crossing the line.
    Last edit by dianah on Jul 9, '17 : Reason: Terms of Service
  5. by   BostonFNP
    It has been interesting to read the feedback, especially from those with their own history on mental illness. It has made me consider my own thoughts on the matter.

    I keep going back to the example the OP provided of a patient visiting the ED for a fracture. An admission for a decompensated psychiatric event is wholly different in my opinion, by the sheer nature of requiring inpatient level of care, so I started comparing a mental health admission to a CHF admission.

    Does the nature of it being a psychiatric admission change the ethical consideration in this case? While I would argue that in either case there are ethical concerns, do the both sit at the same place in the spectrum?

    I do feel that if we take the generic definition of decompendated metal illness that we all learned in school (a disturbance in thought, mood, or behavior) and we combine that with the fact a patient made their first connection with someone providing their care at that time, does that place the patient at higher risk than if a patient with decompensated heart failure does the same?
  6. by   DeeAngel
    You are flirting with the possiblity of losing your license by doing this.
  7. by   Agatha12
    Since reading your first post and then next replies I was wondering if you had a mental issue yourself.your replies were very immature and emotional especially when you realised that we dont support your view. I think in this case, you need a bit of councelling before deciding if you want to carry on with that person.
  8. by   traumaRUs
    This thread has provided the poster with a lot of info for her to make her decisions....closed now...

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