Well, I don't have any good advice either since my major goal in life is to be a stay-at-home mom. :-)
Having a baby in my 40's with 3 teenagers in the house really woke me up to the fact that kids grow up in the blink of an eye and I don't want to take that for granted.
I work part-time and my inlaws watch my son. My husband is a truck driver. On the days I work, I leave the house at 2:30 a.m. and he leaves between 3-5 a.m. and takes our son out to his parents and plops him into bed with them. This started when our son was 4 months old. My inlaws are great with him and live on a ranch, so he loves it. He is two now and looks forward to going to "Nana's and Tata's". I'm very grateful to have them because I don't think I could put him in daycare.
Now, if only I could win the lottery, then I'd be happy.
(not asking for much, huh?
I wish you the best in your quest.