A doctor asking you to give him a cup of coffee!! - page 2
Hi Everyone: I have a silly question to ask.... We have a doc who is handicap and walks with crutches. I dont have a clue what happened to him. He is always rude and mean with his patients and... Read More
Dec 3, '07Occupation: travel nurse - ob Specialty: OB ; Joined: Jul '01; Posts: 3,171; Likes: 4,505Quote from Hopefull2009Being on crutches does make it pretty hard to manage a cup of coffee! A few years ago I had surgery on a foot and was on crutches. My first time alone at home I decided to make a pot of coffee, poured my self a mug, then realized that there was no way to manage a cup and crutches and that if I tried to hop on one foot while holding the cup, coffee would cover me and the kitchen. I ended up sitting down on the kitchen floor to drink my coffee!If he walks on crutches, has someone considered that he may not be able to get the coffee and bring the cup back to his table, if he needs both hands to walk?
If that is the case, I would have got him the coffee.
Being unable to do for myself made me pretty grouchy too! To this day my boys think that pain meds make me mean - never told them I wasn't taking it!
I would have gotten him a cup, and one for myself.
I have been known to take an able bodied doctor by the arm, lead him to the coffee maker and offer to give him an inservice in how to operate this complicated piece of machinery.
Dec 3, '07Occupation: jobshare on a cardiac unit, unit interventionalist for young foolish nurses Specialty: 19 year(s) of experience in neuro, med/surg/, cardiac care ; Joined: Jul '07; Posts: 428; Likes: 106Definately would not have gotten it for him , taking into account his rudeness, otherwise wouldn't have minded. Probably would have added though that it was still in the backroom, unpoured beside his jar of happy pills which he obviously hadn't taken today yet either.
Dec 3, '07Joined: Jan '07; Posts: 436; Likes: 292I'd just bring him a cup of coffee and let it go.
There are probably several factors that add to his behavior, including the fact that he's a doctor and think nurses are beneath him, and perhaps he's just a male chauvinist and thinks women are beneath him, and then there's the handicap issue.
But sometimes life is just easier to be be accomondating and move on.
Be the bigger person, get the doctor some coffee. No reason, in my opinion, to start a power struggle. One day I might be one calling him at 3 AM on a Sunday morning, asking about a patient, and I'd like to establish a good rapport with him.
Just my opinion, of course, but killing someone with kindness is kind of a hobby with me!
Dec 3, '07Occupation: Obs Unit Specialty: Telemetry & Obs ; From: US ; Joined: Oct '03; Posts: 2,412; Likes: 1,820I would have made his coffee and taken it to him. What's the big deal?!?
Dec 3, '07Joined: Sep '05; Posts: 217; Likes: 234I would have said "oh! but you didn't ask me to get you a cup of coffee". Then added in the nicest way..'would like me to get you a some coffee?' Then he would have to say yes please.
Dec 3, '07Joined: Dec '03; Posts: 3,069; Likes: 5,127I think the main point is, the doc didn't even ASK for a cup of coffee; all he did was ask if there was any made, and then kinda assumed that the nurse would take the hint and go get him a cup.
If he or ANY doctor very nicely asked me to get them a cup of coffee, I would have no problem doing that at all. But it sounds like he didn't even ask.
Dec 3, '07Joined: Sep '06; Posts: 3; Likes: 3hi every one , i think even he is hadicapped put still his hand working and his mind working ,so he can get for him self a cup of coffe that is not nurse working:angryfire:angryfire
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Dec 3, '07Occupation: RN LTC From: US ; Joined: Jan '03; Posts: 3,760; Likes: 1,820Quote from AlibabaYeah...that. If when I gave him the cup and he didn't murmer a "thanks" I micht have said "50 cents please!" and then said "that's because you forgot your manners" LOL.I would have said "oh! but you didn't ask me to get you a cup of coffee". Then added in the nicest way..'would like me to get you a some coffee?' Then he would have to say yes please.
Dec 3, '07Occupation: jobshare on a cardiac unit, unit interventionalist for young foolish nurses Specialty: 19 year(s) of experience in neuro, med/surg/, cardiac care ; Joined: Jul '07; Posts: 428; Likes: 106Quote from truernI would have made his coffee and taken it to him. What's the big deal?!?
I think the big deal is that he is rude is it not??
Dec 3, '07From: US ; Joined: Jan '06; Posts: 13,193; Likes: 17,910I'd have figured that Greg House showed up on my floor and handed him the coffee and a bottle of Vicodin.
Dec 3, '07Occupation: Nurse Consultant to a government agency Joined: Apr '03; Posts: 1,052; Likes: 806I'll share with you what I've done. I've had many an arrogant physician demand I get them coffee. And I reply: " I'm sorry, trafficking in caffeine is against my religious faith. The pot/urn/vending machine is over there".
It usually stops them in their tracks. And it is true, BTW....my church does not condone caffeine usage.
Dec 3, '07Joined: Apr '07; Posts: 247; Likes: 122Quote from SuesquatchI'd have figured that Greg House showed up on my floor and handed him the coffee and a bottle of Vicodin.
HA! I was thinking the same thing! Glad someone else said it. (Hmmm...What Would Cuddy Do?)
I wonder if maybe he is in pain and finds it difficult to conjure up the pleasantries. Think about the days you might work with a migraine or cramps and even though you don't try to be mean, it's just harder to be nice. The most graceful thing someone can do in that case is be tolerant and nice for the sake of being nice. If he were actually being abusive verbally, that's another story. Good luck with him!
Dec 3, '07Occupation: perpetual student Specialty: 5 year(s) of experience in ICU, currently in Anesthesia School ; Joined: Jun '06; Posts: 224; Likes: 115I would tell him what I say to my kid. No "please", no can do. Treat him with the same respect he gives you. Crutches or not, he needs to act like an adult.
The question I always ask myself when presented with situations like this is:
Would you tolerate the same behavior from a stranger on the street? If the answer is no, then you have your course of action.