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Thanks so much, everyone who replied. It's not that I feel like I have to do it now, it's that I don't want to keep waiting until the time is "right." I need to have my annual exam in November anyways, so I am also going to talk to my NP about options - right now I'm on depo, so I want to maybe at least switch BCs and get on something I can go off of easier in a year or two. I think after asking a lot of advice here and of friends and relatives, we might consider just stopping BC with maybe 5-6 months before graduation. Obviously, we don't even know if we're able to conceive, or how long it'll take. Then even if it happens the first time, I think the timing might be OK. Then just go about our business, if we don't get pregnant until after I graduate, that's fine too. Also, my husband is able to work from home almost any day he wants to, and his hours just have to equal at least 36/week. He can do 3 12's too if he so desires. That makes a lot of eventual child care decision easier. Anyways, thanks guys, and I guess we probably just have to figure this out for ourselves.
I am currently almost done with an Accelerated BSN nursing program, and can tell you that although there are students who have kids, some have been able to make it and a few others dropped out. They all have childcare taken care of, and their husbands do help around the house, but you have to keep in mind that a young infant or toddler does need to bond with the mother.
A couple students also told me about the 'guilt' factor, and even if their husbands actually understood that they had to stay in the library hours after class to study ( since studying at home with a young child is not the easiest (they always want mommy's attention, etc) the women still felt that they were neglecting the child during the most important time in their life, their first yrs.
The Accelerated programs are very intense and fast paced, and though it is worth the sacrifice in my opinion, to work hard for a year or so..But if you have a child under 5 especially, even 1 year that you miss important moments or time with him/her are very important for that age group.
I'm not saying that people can't go to school with babies or toddlers and make it fine, but I'm just saying it's VERY difficult to juggle homework, papers, studying, clinicals, while trying to give your child Qualilty time...during a fast paced intense program like Accelerated BSN. Of course, women do manage some quality time, but it doesn't mean they aren't exhausted, tired, and wish they had more time to give their child.
At least this is what a few female students told me, about the reason they decided to drop out, since they had a baby or toddler at home.
They will return to school later, or maybe decide to do the traditional nursing program which is not so intense or fast paced.
Women juggle work and babies/toddlers all the time, but actual work is not so intense as an Accelerated Nursing program, since you have to do so much studying, work in so little time and most schools don't allow Cs, you have to do better or fail.
I personally would rather finish school first, and I'm already early 30s, but I don't think I would've been able to finish this program if i had been pregnant or a baby at home. I do plan to try conceiving as soon as I graduate, and I think it's still a good time.