SOCIAL ettique of using "Dr." on invitation

  1. This question is related to SOCIAL use, not professional use of "Dr."

    When addressing an invitation/card to a DNP and her husband, do I use "Dr. & Mr. Jones"? I am thinking yes, since her professional rank is higher than his.
  2. Poll: Should I use "Dr." when addressing social invitation to DNP & her husband?

    • Yes

      73.17% 30
    • No

      26.83% 11
    41 Votes
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    14 Comments

  4. by   Shanimal
    Your format is correct if it's a very formal invitation.
  5. by   meanmaryjean
    I have a DNP and the only people I expect to call me 'Doctor' are my kids.

    True story
  6. by   DizzyJon
    I agree, it is appropriate for a formal invitation. I only use Dr. designation when an application/reservation requests a prefix and it has the option to choose Dr. over Mr.
  7. by   SherlockRN
    Thank you, Shanimal, BSN, RN; I felt it was proper etiquette yet wasn't sure. I appreciate your response.
    Last edit by SherlockRN on Nov 25, '17
  8. by   SherlockRN
    I am not sure I understand your response,meanmaryjean, DNP, RN. Do you feel I "should" or "should not" use in addressing an invitation to mail to someone's home?
    Last edit by SherlockRN on Nov 25, '17
  9. by   SherlockRN
    Thank you, DizzyJon. I agree with your use of the prefix.
    Last edit by SherlockRN on Nov 25, '17
  10. by   chare
    Quote from SherlockRN
    ...Do you feel I "should" or "should not" use in addressing an invitation to mail to someone's home?
    No, I don't think you should. And in my opinion this is nothing but snobbery, especially as you felt it necessary to include this "I am thinking yes, since her professional rank is higher than his" with your question.
  11. by   SherlockRN
    No pretentious intent. I was taught "professional rank" rules in social address, yet wasn't sure, given the contention around using "Dr." with DNP. Nonetheless, I found a reliable source for my answer, see below.
    Take care~
    Nurse L.

    According to Emily Post, "When a married woman uses the title "Dr." (either medical or academic) socially, addressing social correspondence to the couple is a little trickier. If her husband is not a doctor, address letters to Dr. Sonia and Mr. Robert Harris. Her name comes first because her professional title "outranks" his social title". From Emily Post
  12. by   mmc51264
    I have always seen Mr and Dr John Smith. Never seen the woman first. Not sure how she would be addressed formally (usually iit is Mrs. John Smith) Not sure how much Emily Post is used anymore, kind of sad. Sexist but old school.
  13. by   Jules A
    I wonder if the OP was looking to suck up to a professor. Why in the world would anyone address a social invitation to a NP as Dr?
  14. by   broughden
    Quote from Jules A
    I wonder if the OP was looking to suck up to a professor. Why in the world would anyone address a social invitation to a NP as Dr?
    Because they put in the time and effort to earn the degree, just like an MD or PhD did?
    Because in a formal invitation situation its the proper thing to do?
  15. by   OllieW
    Formal invitation...I do not think I have ever sent a formal invitation...My graduation invitations never had titles on them just first and last names. I also refuse to put and family. It always ticked me off growing up to be invited as "and family". If I receive and invitation I would not be bent out of shape if it did not include my title..

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