December 1 2022

No Stars In My Eyes · Dec 1, 2022

Gouda Aftah-noon!

Nannie does not even remember falling or going to the ER or getting stitches. She said her forehead was sore, and I showed her how swollen it is, which surprised her. She had, at some point during the night, removed the Tegaderm over the stitches. I said, "to heck with it! I give up!" and decided to leave it uncovered. If she gets her too-long fingernails in it and gets it infected, well, that's just too bad. Explaining it does no good. But, at least she is in a really chipper mood this morning! Talking, talking, talking, talking, ad infinitum.

I sent a message to the hairdresser and told her everything is fine and not to worry. Hubby seems to think she might have been worried we would sue her or something, but I can't hardly think why we would. Medicare and supplement covers all of it, and it wasn't the hairdresser's fault she smashed face-first into the sidewalk!

Welp, now I have to go to the grocery store. Whoop-dee-dooooooooo!

Later!

No Stars In My Eyes · Dec 1, 2022

When I came home from the grocery store, hubby said his (R) knee had given out and was really hurting. I suspect, from the dirt-skid marks on both knees, he must have fallen again. He refused to think about going to the ER, so I just gave him one of my crutches to help not put too much pressure on his knee. His appt w/ the doc is this coming Tuesday. I wonder what will come first? Total knee replacement or alky rehab? Jeesh! And he sat on the front porch and cried, "I'm falling apart", sobbing that "I've put so much on you. You shouldn't have to do everything.".... "Nope, I shouldn't", I said, "and that is why you are going to start taking better care of yourself. That will be your job, to come off the booze, and get your knee fixed."

Nannie heard the front door shut and woke up, wanting to know who that was at the door, and I told her it was her son. "Who?" I told her his name, and then she said, "What's he doing here?" So, we went through the whole we-moved-down-here-five-years-ago-to-take-care-of-you thing. Then she said she thought he was married. I told her he is married, to me, and this month will be our 33rd wedding anniversary. "Oh, I didn't know that. Where does he live?" ? OY!

So, we've ordered pizza and naked, boneless chicken wings to be delivered for supper. He is waiting for the delivery on the front porch. I told him that when they came, he was to open the door and say "They're here." because he doesn't need to be trying to use the cane and carry his soda and the pizza order, too. He promised he would, so now let's see if he does.

All I can say is it's a good thing I am relatively healthy and the gypsies are behaving. They say God always has a plan, and I hate to say this, but I don't think much of this particular plan.

I could change my screen name to Cinderella, but I'm hoping and praying that one day the things will change and I can actually enjoy a retirement.

nursej22, MSN, RN · Dec 1, 2022

Hullo. It's cold and clear, with some wind gusts. My phone says it is 28 degrees but feels like 20. I've been decorating my Christmas tree, hanging ornaments that we've collected since we got married. There are lots of angels, mice, kitties, puppies, and we picked up while traveling. There are little ice skaters, a little nurse, gardening themed ones, and glass snowflakes. I stopped to to a tele-health call with the cardiology office that was sort of silly. It started 30 minutes late, and basically he asked me if I had any cardiac symptoms. I thought he would talk about my latest echo, but he didn't bring it up.

I have a pot roast in the slow cooker, will add carrots and potatoes later. dh went to pick up his new glasses.

Gosh NoStars, you just can't catch a break. (((((Stars))))))

Joe, that sounds like unpleasant weather to shop in. I'm glad I can stay in today.

Ado, how did Twin B with his first shift? Brrr, sounds like everyone is cold, except Tweety.

Hi Dianah, I hope you are getting lots of rest, and sipping tea.

Just now, nursej22 said:

Hullo. It's cold and clear, with some wind gusts. My phone says it is 28 degrees but feels like 20. I've been decorating my Christmas tree, hanging ornaments that we've collected since we got married. There are lots of angels, mice, kitties, puppies, and various things we picked up while traveling. There are little ice skaters, a little nurse, gardening themed ones, and glass snowflakes. I stopped to to a tele-health call with the cardiology office that was sort of silly. It started 30 minutes late, and basically he asked me if I had any cardiac symptoms. I thought he would talk about my latest echo, but he didn't bring it up.

I have a pot roast in the slow cooker, will add carrots and potatoes later. dh went to pick up his new glasses.

Gosh NoStars, you just can't catch a break. (((((Stars))))))

Joe, that sounds like unpleasant weather to shop in. I'm glad I can stay in today.

Ado, how did Twin B with his first shift? Brrr, sounds like everyone is cold, except Tweety.

Hi Dianah, I hope you are getting lots of rest, and sipping tea.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Dec 1, 2022

Wow, Stars, your dh is sure tearing himself up. Unfortunately, he isn't the only hurt by it.

I understand about not being too impressed with this particular plan. The trip to Indiana with Gma was so much fun ?that I was thinking to myself that I have never before wished someone dead. It took a couple of days for me to feel compassion for her again. But I still don't want to keep on like this for an indefinitely long period of time. Hubs doesn't seem to care how much the rest of us have to sacrifice in order to keep her out of a nursing home. My worst self says she can live as long as she wants IF she'll do it at a nursing home. TMI? Maybe these are things I should only tell my therapist? LOL

No Stars In My Eyes · Dec 1, 2022

Ado ~ Not TMI. I am sitting here nodding my head as I read your post. I totally understand, like 200%!

I never thought I would be taking full-time care of TWO patients. GADS!

Editorial Team / Admin · Dec 2, 2022

Ado and Stars, I am relieved you can at least come here to vent. What a dilemma and what challenges! I do add you to daily prayers.

Hello to Joe, Tweety, nursej22!

I am usually on the computer at least twice a day. Today? This is the first I have been on it. I have spent the day in bed, as I did yesterday. I can tell the cold is lightening up, however I still sneeze and have a drippy nose and a cough (stomach muscles are sore from coughing!!). Meh, this too shall pass. I will be even better tomorrow, too, so I think we will go ahead with the practice. Dh is much better, he attended the online jam today.

Stars, at least Nannie isn't grumpy.

nursej22, hang in there for the three months!!

Have a good evening!

No Stars In My Eyes · Dec 2, 2022

Nannie just came out of her bedroom and said she couldn't sleep; she said her cheek hurt, and could I put a bandage on it? There is already a Tegaderm on her cheek, and I had her feel the edge of it. "What about the sore spot on my forehead, can you put a bandage on it?" I told her I had bandaged it three times and she pulled it off three times, so I gave up. She started laughing and said, "You're so cute!" and back to bed she went.

Hubby was squawking that he didn't want to go upstairs because he wasn't sleepy and he didn't want to just flop back and forth. I asked him who said he had to go to bed? Not me! He stayed pretty still with the wrap on his knee, for a while. He just went out to have a cigt. and I'll bet you a nickel that he also took a good snort out of the bottle he keeps in the Ford.

You know, when he said he hadn't fallen, afterwards he was c/o his NEW glasses frames being uneven. I doubt there was any other way they got out of shape. He'd better behave and quit falling altogether because he'll have to get ANOTHER pair of glasses if he wrecks this pair and I don't know how many times they'll cover them under warranty. I told them I could bolt them in place and that would take care of everything.

I can't tell you how mad my brother and sister are that he is behaving this way. My brother says I may be a saint, but I am an abused one, and hubby better grow up FAST, if it's even possible. My sister is p.o'd that he is unable to do anything about taking care of his mother and seeing to getting her placed, somehow, somewhere.

All the people in the neighborhood know what a sot he is; when he falls he says he's "so embarrassed", but I sure don't think that embarrassment is enough to help him want to stop drinking.

OK, I',m through for now.