Any nurses married to a nurse ?

Jen2 · May 31, 2005

I posted this same question a while back with some interesting responses. I always wonder also because my boyfriend is a nurse. He works night shift and I just graduated nursing school and will begin afternoon shift. We don't live together and we always wonder when we get married if we will ever see each other.

We love to discuss nursing and share our interests with each other. I swear we have gotten some pretty dirty looks when we discuss fecal impaction while out to dinner LOL. It's great when we watch medical drama's on TV and argue about the DX etc. We get along just great.

However, now that I am finished with school we will be going ring shopping soon and getting ready to take the plunge. I figure if he can put up with me through nursing school then he's an O.K. guy. He was my biggest support system while I was in school. I can only wonder what it will be like married with children to a nurse. It's going to be pretty hard to find daycare at midnight LOL.

elcaminoman42 · May 31, 2005

I met my wife in nursing school, same starting class. Even though we were not dating until the last year, we had a few classes together and never had the same clinical rotation. I think that worked best for us. We gave each other information to expect with the clinicals we had already had. After graduation, we both worked the same area, she worked days, i worked nights. Since being married, we have occasionally worked for the same facility, but not in the same areas, by choice. Because we are 2 different people, and are needless to say, 2 different nurses. We do talk about issues, and usually agree. It has worked well for us.

suzanne4, RN · May 31, 2005

I have worked with quite a few married nurse couples in the past. There are currently two married couples on my unit.

Mad*Hatter · May 31, 2005

Yes, Im in nursing school and my husband is a nurse. It works out well for us.

neuronursein06 · May 31, 2005

not married to a nurse, but marrying a physician in a few months; i know that wasn't the q, but it works well for us. both understand what the other is going through, don't work at the same hospital (anymore at least). it's been awesome having someone who totally helped me through pharm and phys!

if you work at the same hospital, really leave the relationship at home, and do not bring it to work. we kept it under wraps for 6+ months, until we knew it was "the real deal". i rarely worked bc of school, and he is/was on a different floor/rotation every mo. anyway. i decided, which he eventually agreed, that i didn't want to work at the same hospital anymore; thought it better for both of us, and it really has. lots of catty people who started spreading rumors about us separately and us as a couple. call months suck, his last night of call ever as a resident is tonight, though....if you really are in love with one another, anything can work.

whoever said it was fun figuring out the dx'es is right...we have/had (since the season just ended) a standing "er" date every thursday; love to figure out the dx'es. some i got before him, others he gets every time.

good luck! there are married nurses at the hospital i work at, and the former one; one couple works at the same hospital, same shift every night, but one on tele and the other in teh ccu. another couple at my current hospital work at different hospitals- the hubby on days and the wife on pm's (3:30-midnight); one of the moms babysits their 2-yr old when the girl works, until the guy comes home when they're working the same day. point being, it can work if you want it to, and both parties make concessions.

was that the original question? (how nurse/nurse relationships work)???i don't even remember now! i'm trying to apply for the nyc marathon, which the lottery app's are due at the end of today (the 30th)...and the application won't download! getting annoyed.

anyway, good luck.

:)

lady_jezebel · May 31, 2005

I'm sooooo envious of those couples who are nurses & do traveling together. There is one couple I know who schedules all the same shifts together at the same hospital -- it's written into their contract even -- so that they have all their free time together (if they want it). They travel all over the country.

neuronursein06 · May 31, 2005

I'm sooooo envious of those couples who are nurses & do traveling together. There is one couple I know who schedules all the same shifts together at the same hospital -- it's written into their contract even -- so that they have all their free time together (if they want it). They travel all over the country.

Yeah, the couple at the one hospital work the same nights every week; it must be written into their contract, though I don't know that for certain. Another friend is married to a guy who's going to start nursing school in August; she cannot wait for him to be done so they can travel together.

markjrn · May 31, 2005

Just wondering if there are any nurses out there that are married to a nurse? If so, any comments on a relationship with both parties in the same career?
Thanks,
Kitty-MayRN

Met DW in nursing school, got married after that, and have worked together ever since.

markjrn · May 31, 2005

I'm sooooo envious of those couples who are nurses & do traveling together. There is one couple I know who schedules all the same shifts together at the same hospital -- it's written into their contract even -- so that they have all their free time together (if they want it). They travel all over the country.

We used to do that, and the hospitals never gave us a hard time over it. We either worked together or didn't take the contract.

shopgal, RN · May 31, 2005

I was married to a man who's career was nothing medical and it was so hard to talk to him because he didn't care when I would come home and be so drained from having a pt die or a really stressful night. He totally didn't understand and didn't care to. I am divorced and am with a respiratory therapist now and it's great because we understand eachother. We both work 12-hour nights. It works out great for both of us.

neuronursein06 · May 31, 2005

I was married to a man who's career was nothing medical and it was so hard to talk to him because he didn't care when I would come home and be so drained from having a pt die or a really stressful night. He totally didn't understand and didn't care to. I am divorced and am with a respiratory therapist now and it's great because we understand eachother. We both work 12-hour nights. It works out great for both of us.

Me, personally? I like coming home and having my guy understand everything- and in the same respect, I really like now that we're at different hospitals, so we're not rehashing the same codes, the same saves, losses, etc....it is nice being able to talk to him about work things, but not have that be the main point of our relationship either....the Chicago Cubs' curse has been the main topic of conversation lately... :angryfire