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Alzheimer's: You Might Have A Problem If . . . .

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alzheimer’s: you might have a problem if . . . .

 

ok, i know this may strike some people as insensitive and lacking in compassion, but here are a few of the issues my mother and i have encountered -- and some of the things we've laughed about recently.

 

if you cannot remember whether your husband says he works 7-7 or 9-9 today, you’re probably normal. if you cannot remember whether he said he went hunting with steve or fishing with joe, you’re ok. you should perhaps pay more attention, but you’re ok. if you’re sitting in the dark waiting for him to come home, and mad enough to spit nails because he hasn’t called to say he’d be late -- and your daughter insists he died over a year ago -- you might have a problem.

 

if you can’t remember where you stashed the spare key, you’re probably normal. after all, dh puts it under the rock in the back yard about half the time when he uses it, and the other half of the time he hides it under the garbage can. you never need to use it because you never forget your keys. if you’ve forgotten that you have a spare key, a lock or even a front door, you’ve probably got a problem.

 

if you’ve gotten so engrossed in your book or your knitting or your argument with your husband about whether he said he went hunting with steve or fishing with joe that you’ve forgotten to make lunch and it’s now 5:30, you’re probably ok. enviable -- i never seem to forget lunch -- but essentially normal. if you’ve forgotten that you need to eat at least a couple of times a day, cannot remember how to make a sandwich and don’t know what to do with the one your daughter placed in front of you until she sits down and begins to eat hers, chances are you’re not normal. time to see the memory specialist.

 

if you can’t remember where you parked your car when you exit the walmart in a strange town, well, we’ve all done that. (haven’t we?) and if you’re looking for a tan chevy when the rental car you were driving was a brown nissan, well you’ve just got a lot on your mind. (your mother's alzheimer's for example.) if you cannot remember whether you were driving the red buick you got in 1975 (and junked in 1988) or the green pick-up truck (the one dad burned up while your daughter was still in college) you’ve got issues. and if you walk right by your car several times because you’re looking for one of the above, you’ve got a real issues. happily, you won't find the red buick or the green pick-up because you ought not to be driving anyway.

 

if you cannot remember what town the above walmart is located in or how you got there, you ought not to be living on your own. stop fighting the idea of assisted living.

 

if you leave church after the service and start walking home because it’s nice out, you enjoy walking and you live less than three miles away you’re probably ok, especially if you’ve already arranged with dh that he brings the car home when he’s finished socializing with his friends at church. if you leave church after the service and start walking home to the farm where you’ve lived the past 40 years, and it’s 30 below zero and the farm is ten miles away, this could be signs of a real problem. if you’ve started walking home and the ladies who picked you up and brought you to church are now getting upset because they can’t find you to take you home, that’s a real problem. they might night find you until you've frozen solid.

 

anyone can get lost looking for the mailbox when they’ve just moved into a new building and everything looks alike. but if you’ve lived in the same house for 40 years, the mailbox is within sight of your front door and you still can’t find it, you might want to consider assisted living. (of course if the problem is that the local teenagers have run over it with their pick-ups again and left it lying flat in the tall grass, that’s another issue entirely.)

 

if you can't find the cat because he has a habit of crawling into open cupboards and your husband forgot to close the cupboard again and then you closed it so the cat wouldn't crawl in when you went into the kitchen and found it open, you're normal. your cat may have issues, though. if you can't find the cat because you've forgotten that he ran away six months ago, you may have issues. if you've found the cat and he's sick because you've forgotten to feed him, de-worm him or whatever, that's a problem, too.

 

if you laugh at these situations because you're a sick person who absolutely lacks compassion for the elderly and confused, you have a problem. if you laugh because they've happened to you or your parent and it really is kind of funny and if you don't laugh you'll cry and you've cried enough about the situation for this week, you're ok. you've got real problems, of course, but you're dealing with them as best you can.

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If you and the wife leave to go to Walmart and are intercepted by the RCMP because you overshot the mark by 100 miles, you may both have a problem.

If you crack up the car before you get out of the garage and think the tow guy is trying to steal it, you may have a problem.

If you are on the dementia unit and are looking for your car and are told it's in the parking lot and decide you have yet another car, you might have a problem.

If you have been looking for your purse for six months and accuse everyone you see of stealing it, you might have a problem.

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Oh my, you made my day. I just laughed and laughed. Everyone continue with this we need to laugh.

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dudette10 has 14 years experience as a MSN, RN.

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If you see your son kissing his wife, and you grimace because you don't like her, you're normal. If you see your son kissing his wife, and you get disgusted with your brother (who's been dead for 40 years but looks just like the guy you're sitting next to) because he's obviously having a fling with some floozy, you've got a problem.

If you wish you could go back to your home country, you're normal. If you want to go back to your home country, and you think it's just down the street, you've got a problem.

If the toilet gets backed up, and you use the plunger to fix it, you're normal. If the toilet gets backed up, you then use your hands to break up your poop, you have a problem.

If you get a few sheets of toilet paper for you room when your nose is running, you're normal. If you go through two rolls of toilet paper a day and stuff them in every drawer of your bureau, you have a problem.

BTW, yes, children who have any role in caring for parents for dementia must laugh. Or go crazy. I choose to laugh. :redbeathe

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Ruby Vee has 40 years experience as a BSN.

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if you and the wife leave to go to walmart and are intercepted by the rcmp because you overshot the mark by 100 miles, you may both have a problem.

if you crack up the car before you get out of the garage and think the tow guy is trying to steal it, you may have a problem.

if you are on the dementia unit and are looking for your car and are told it's in the parking lot and decide you have yet another car, you might have a problem.

if you have been looking for your purse for six months and accuse everyone you see of stealing it, you might have a problem.

ok, that's funny! mom keeps looking for her car and some of my aunts (who don't want her to "feel bad") tell her it's in the parking lot. the purse thing is familiar, too!

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Ruby Vee has 40 years experience as a BSN.

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if you see your son kissing his wife, and you grimace because you don't like her, you're normal. if you see your son kissing his wife, and you get disgusted with your brother (whose been dead for 40 years but looks just like the guy you're sitting next to) because he's obviously having a fling with some floozy, you've got a problem.

if you wish you could go back to your home country, you're normal. if you want to go back to your home country, and you think it's just down the street, you've got a problem.

if the toilet gets backed up, and you use the plunger to fix it, you're normal. if the toilet gets backed up, you then use your hands to break up your poop, you have a problem.

if you get a few sheets of toilet paper for you room when your nose is running, you're normal. if you go through two rolls of toilet paper a day and stuff them in every drawer of your bureau, you have a problem.

btw, yes, children who have any role in caring for parents for dementia must laugh. or go crazy. i choose to laugh. :redbeathe

now that reminds me more of my mother-in-law. mamita doesn't remember me anymore, so when she sees me with her son, she calls me "mrs. v." and sometimes she mistakes him for her dead brother! the wanting to go home part rings bells, too. she's been wanting to go home since she got to the dementia unit. unfortunately, katrina took her home.

 

the toilet paper thing is funny, too!

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wearingmanyhats has 23 years experience.

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OMG!!! Thanks for the laugh...

I work mostly in dementia... and THERE are days you begin to wonder if you don't need to be assigned a bed there (hmmmm.... why did I come down in the basement???)

And you are so right... if you are caring for a loved one... you do need to laugh to keep from bawling...

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If you grab a handful of napkins to use as you eat your donut and coffee you are normal. If you grab a handful of napkins to stuff into you purse because "you just might need them" and end up with a purse full of napkins, you may have a problem.

If you get up to the bathroom in the middle of the night in a strange place and get a little mixed up up finding your bed on the way back, you are probably normal. If you exit the room and wander up and down the hallways of the resort, trying every door you find (and giving your daughter a heart attack when she finds you gone at 1:30am) you probably have Alzheimers.

If you get up in the middle of the night to go the bathroom when visiting your daughter and can't find your bed, so you ask the cat when your bed is, you have a problem.

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You might have a problem if you are clutching your half full foley bag thinking its your purse. You proceed to whack anyone in head with it thinking they are trying to steal your purse. happened to someone at work. funny stuff.

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If you keep falling because you keep forgetting that you can't walk and need to pee and have a Foley you might have a problem.

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if you cannot remember whether your husband says he works 7-7 or 9-9 today, you're probably normal. if you cannot remember whether he said he went hunting with steve or fishing with joe, you're ok. you should perhaps pay more attention, but you're ok. if you're sitting in the dark waiting for him to come home, and mad enough to spit nails because he hasn't called to say he'd be late -- and your daughter insists he died over a year ago -- you might have a problem.

 

this is one of my residents. every. single. day. not just at night.. mornings.. afternoons..too lol

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Ruby Vee has 40 years experience as a BSN.

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you might have a problem if you are clutching your half full foley bag thinking its your purse. you proceed to whack anyone in head with it thinking they are trying to steal your purse. happened to someone at work. funny stuff.

omg! that one should have had a beverage alert! i nearly choked whilst trying not to laugh out loud!

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