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A REAL Nurse

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by Ruby Vee Ruby Vee, BSN (Member) Nurse Verified

Ruby Vee has 40 years experience as a BSN .

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This article was inspired by the thread asking "Do you Tell That You're A Nurse When You Go To The Doctor Or ER?" You are reading page 5 of A REAL Nurse. If you want to start from the beginning Go to First Page.

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I am not insulted by this post and I enjoyed the article. I am a nurse educator and I have an MSN and several certifications. I do not make enough $ to be Gucci or have a great sense of style, unless it involves sweats. I find it isn't the clothes or the position that make the Gucci nurse, it is a loss of empathy and IMHO being out of touch with who we should be. Over the years, I have come to the realization that no matter what I do or what degree I have, the most important business of nursing is conducted at the bedside. Those of us not at the bedside full-time have a role. We are there as stage hands, to facilitate excellent patient care, though indirectly. We do NOT occupy the roles we have because we are more important than the bedside nursing staff. To me as leaders and educators, we are there to provide the infra-structure. To provide an effective infra-structure and make informed decisions, we should be aware of what is going on, the good and the bad. From my experience, when they fear you in person, they mock you in private and take little of what you say to heart. I always introduce myself to folks as a nurse because that is what is most important about me professionally. The other stuff means I have some additional credentials and/ or knowledge about certain things. It is sad to think that some in nursing went from a position of total subservience to our physician colleagues to being "arrogant" to those we should be there to support. (PS I would probably show up visiting with sweats from JCPenney or Sears)

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I am sorry to hear about your dad. I have a relative that is a Gucci nurse. As soon as she got her RN, she went for her masters so she would never have to touch patients.

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I think the writer was just trying to tell a story about her experience and a compliment that someone gave her

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GoodNP works as a FNP.

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ivory tower or in the trenches...we all eat, sleep and poop pretty much the same. can be frustrating when people with power think that they are better than those without - whether it is a nurse or not. in pretty much any situation, you need all players on the team to make it work

you are so right, on all three counts. it can also be frustrating, though, when people who work in the trenches, so to speak, discredit those who have chosen a different path. sometimes, we trench workers project feelings or attitudes on to non-clinical type nurses they may not feel or display at all.

sometimes we see people in nice clothes and think they were born with silver spoons in their mouths. a quiet person is perceived as a snob.

maybe the op's sister really is a twit. we don't know for sure b/c there weren't really any examples given of unreasonable behavior. there was this:

"she was ever so polite, i’m sure, while making it excrutiaitingly obvious that no one was quite as good as she, either."

 

...a presumption of what the op is "sure" happened but didn't actually witness, and this:

 

"i laughed and said, as i always do when asked about what my sister does for a living, "she's a gucci nurse."

...an example of the op's condescension.

regardless, even if the sister is as awful as the op insinuates, it has nothing to do with her career field, her style of dress, or the fact that she wanted a comfortable place for her mother to sleep.

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royhanosn works as a boss.

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how sensitive nurses have become these days! bullying will always be around, lateral violence? speak plain english.

ego's will always be abound in nursing! some doctors will bastards to deal with (their ego), some dr are great.

we have a lot of indian dr here, they should leave their attitude toward females nurses back home.

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sunflowerross works as a Charge Nurse/SNF.

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I think the writer was just trying to tell a story about her experience and a compliment that someone gave her

Love this comment! ;)

It feels so good to have a well-deserved compliment. Thank you Ruby for sharing--I enjoyed your story. It brought a happy emotion in me. I recently had an active dying hospice pt in my care, keeping him as comfortable as possible. His room was full of family members grateful for the care he was getting. Then a new face entered the room, I never saw her before. She asked not long after she entered the room, "Doesn't he have something more for pain!?!" After her comment I told her "he recently had meds; as well, my assessment of him he is comfortable with no indications of pain or discomfort." She responded, "Well, I'm an oncology nurse and see this probably more than you, I feel he needs more meds."

It was handled in a professional way later outside of the room--respectfully.

Just another example; it's always a good idea to try to separate your roll in health-care from the roll of a pt family member. It's not a healthy situation if you are unable to separate these two rolls.

Thanks again for sharing your story.

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movingtotnasap works as a ICU Nurse.

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I hope your dad is doing well. I totally understand the gucci nurse. Her heart is in the right place, but oh so far away from reality. Its not news that hospitals have policies, and rules. The bed side nurse usually does not make the bed assignment, or choose the food, or decide what time housekeeping will be around. We all would love a perfect day. Gucci nurses, on the other hand, only see what administration wants. UGH!! how far from reality is that. Personally I am so sick and tired of having the insane run the insane asylum. Our CEO just got a 200k bonus, and a 3 percent raise. Ticked everyone off, he got that money because the hospital staff improved the patient satisfaction scores. But there was no mention of how well the staff did. No bonuses for the staff, minimal raises, which once upon a time we were promised would be every January. Yep 5000 people all getting their raises at the same time. Now we are lucky if we get out raises in April or May. But I digress...I will take a real nurse anyday over a policy making, research reading, out of touch with the staff in the trenches nurse.

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What bothers me the most is those one the bottom tske all the risk and those higher up receive all the prestige I get downright angry with the unrealistic expectations of management how can one person take care of their pts according to the bd of nrsg. To at the top say get it done but do not provide enough staff to get it done can I get some more help done here please ill take more help any day of the risk if you speak up and out you are a trouble maker now that bites and I find myself having to bite my tongue to keep from being unprofessional and the unrealistic expectations of family members as well I am only one person doing my very best

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royhanosn works as a boss.

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most people in management are at their level of incompetence..aka Peter Principle.

To show their awkwardness, have an executive or manager work your level, they cant do it.

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