Help i want to quit my first nursing job

  1. I just graduated from nursing school and i just landed a job out of state.the only problem is that i am petrified to go to work. I only been at my job for 3 months and I want to quit. My company paid me $2000 to move here but i feel like my life is a living hell. I was suppose to be done with orientation like this week, my boss felt like i was lacking on my skills so he decided to extend it. I hate my job, the other nurses make me feel dumb. They are so rude to me.i have a year contract but i can't see myself lasting a year in this horrible state, its so country over here. To add more, i am walking on eggshells at work when i get there i cant seem to focus. They keep changing me preceptors everyday and most of those preceptors are rude. Please help anyone.
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  3. by   Bri_guy_bri
    ...Deep breath...School is nothing like the real world, and your first few months to a year are going to be stressful! Remember Benner's stages of competency? You are a Novice, its not an insult, its where we all start.
    "The Novice or beginner has no experience in the situations in which they are expected to perform. The Novice lacks confidence to demonstrate safe practice and requires continual verbal and physical cues. Practice is within a prolonged time period and he/she is unable to use discretionary judgment"

    We all felt how you feel right now in our first job in our first year. The important thing is that you don't give up. Your preceptors and colleagues are tough on you because they want you to be great at what you do. They don't want you to make the same mistakes they did.

    You'll get there!
    Last edit by Bri_guy_bri on Mar 15
  4. by   Wuzzie
    Quote from Redvyolet4
    i have a year contract but i can't see myself lasting a year in this horrible state, its so country over here.
    So not one person has been nice to you? Any chance this attitude is showing through?

    Hint: it probably is and that's why people are rude to you.
  5. by   Bri_guy_bri
    Quote from Wuzzie
    So not one person has been nice to you? Any chance this attitude is showing through?

    Hint: it probably is and that's why people are rude to you.
    While I think this could have been said in a nicer way. Wuzzie isn't wrong. How we present ourselves, whether consciously or not, will be returned to you by your colleagues. It's hard to keep it friendly when receiving criticisms, it's hard not to take it personally. But it's not an attack on you, they are just trying to provide you with the wisdom and knowledge they have. Just try to keep that In mind.
  6. by   Redvyolet4
    There's nothing wrong with country . I just hate the feeling that i feel like i am walking on eggshells at work or people are yelling at me. I scared to go to work.
  7. by   Bri_guy_bri
    If you don't present yourself as confident, it's going to show and only make things worse. You are going to make mistakes, do your best to prevent them, but eventually it will happen and someone is going to yell at you, but it's okay. Unless you royally eff up, you won't get fired or anything
  8. by   Redvyolet4
    So you dont think getting a new job and start fresh its a good idea.
  9. by   Wuzzie
    Quote from Bri_guy_bri
    While I think this could have been said in a nicer way. Wuzzie isn't wrong. How we present ourselves, whether consciously or not, will be returned to you by your colleagues.
    Trust me...that was the nicest way it could have been put.
  10. by   OrganizedChaos
    Quote from Redvyolet4
    So you dont think getting a new job and start fresh its a good idea.
    It will look bad if you quit a new job after only 3 months.
  11. by   Redvyolet4
    Thank you everyone for the advice. Maybe i need to be more positive
  12. by   Ben_Dover
    No advice here.

    Please, anyone, correct me if I am wrong... From what I have heard in the past, you are still considered a new grad. even with 3 months of experience working as an RN; and having said that, it becomes quite a challenge for this new grad. to find another employer that will start and include them in their new grad. program.
  13. by   mcas
    Hi Redvyolet4
    It saddened me to hear this, but I know it does exist and nursing school doesn't prepare you for this. I agree with most of the post on their advice to you. Are you in a residency program? usually such programs have someone outside of your assigned unit that you can go to, if it's absolutely unbearable for you, you can transfer to another new grad position. There has to be someone you can turn to. The company has invested in you already, they don't want to see you fail, and they don't want an incompetent nurse as a colleague, so if you approach your manager again with confidence and make your case, things will turn around. You mention "country" and "different preceptors" I would drop that attitude, as others have already mentioned, that will come through and may not be well received, you are a new nurse, this is your experience and you have to get out of it what you need to function on your own, be open to learn from everyone around you. There are organizations that will provide you with a mentor, your local ANA chapter is a good place to start. You can message me privately and I can help any way I can. Keep your head up and know that you will only have to go through this phase in your career just once, everything else you decide to do moving forward you gonna have experience to build on.
  14. by   yoshi87
    What kind of unit are you on?

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