You simply have to investigate each school to investigate your options. Programs are changing all the time --and what was true/possible 2 or 3 years ago might not be possible next year. And there may be new options on the drawing board that will not be available for another 6 months. While you may get some good suggestions here to point your towards some of your local schools, there is no substitute for actually talking with each school itself.
One thing that you may need to come to terms with though -- It is unlikely that you will be able to "have it all." It is unlikely that you will be able to go back to school without having to make some significant changes in your lifestyle, schedule, and/or finances. A good, reputable nursing program will require that you get several hundred hours of supervised clinical practice as part of your educational program. (I think the requirement in Virginia is 800 hours, but I am not 100% sure of that number.) That's not counting the classroom coursework or the personal study time.
While you may be able to keep your full time job as you go to school, you might not. If you are never able to do a weekday clinical because of your job, that will severely limit the possibilities for the clinical portion of your nursing program -- maybe limiting it too much. You need to be at least thinking about other possibilities for your schedule and finances for while you are in school. You might get lucky and find a program that perfectly fits your existing life ... but you need to be open to the possibility that the best program for you may require you to make some short term sacrifices in those things.
Good luck to you.