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**sharrie** · May 31, 2009, 09:47 AM

Re: on the other side

Originally Posted by cariad

no news yet, apart from the family are not even allowed to speak to him, obviously vented etc and all my brother knows is that they are trying to remove the pressure from his brain, thye have been told to fear the worst even if he survives. so will update as I hear, it is so difficult being so far away and of course, the privacy laws means that there is no point trying to call to get the correct information. so just keep praying.

Cariad if you can get your family to let the nurses know that they are happy for you to be given information they will speak to you.

*cariad* · May 31, 2009, 08:03 PM

Re: on the other side

thanks for the support, you didnt need to post for me to know that we all care about each other, its just part of being a nurse. the latest update is that he has had the neck brace removed and they are saying there is no spinal injuries. still trying to reduce the pressure from his brain, have been told that they are reducing all his vital signs to preserve brain function, I know that we do that here with trauma and stroke victims if they meet criteria, they literally keep the body in a state of hypothermia while the body recovers, so dont know if thats what they are using. his parents are stil only allowed to look at him through glass, and are still not allowed to speak to him, so they feel useless, but obviously feel the need to be there. so we will continue to pray for him.

*cariad* · Jul 04, 2009, 03:38 PM

Re: on the other side

Dont want to give personal details on here, and havent been able to reply to my thread before this, but as a nurse a long way from home and a personal tragedy like this it has been hard. my nephew was declared clinically brain dead 10 days after the accident and his parents had the strength to donate his organs, 7 people had a second chance at life because he lost his. so I did fly home to be with my family, even although for a short time as I took 2 days to get there, because of weather delays, but it was something I needed to do. We do get very acclimatised to our job, and I wont say that this has opened my eyes but it has certainly given me more insight as to the grief that happens after we move onto another patient in our job. its a grief that is going to take a while, and the old saying of time is a healer is certainly true. so prayers for his family are still needed as they continue with their lives without their son.

misswoosie · Jul 04, 2009, 05:10 PM

Re: on the other side

Cariad
So sorry for your loss and for your family.Having worked in neuro ITU and don't think I have ever seen anything as heart wrenching as the sorrow and grief expressed by familes who have a loved one so young snatched from them.
My thoughts are with you.
Susan

Billy Shears · Jul 04, 2009, 05:10 PM

Re: on the other side

Sorry to hear this Cariad, hope you are OK.
What you say about grief is so very true.

**sharrie** · Jul 05, 2009, 01:54 PM

Re: on the other side

Cariad I am so very sorry, I know how much your nephew and your family mean to you and to endure such a loss being so far away from home is heartbreaking. I am so glad your family were able to find the strength to help so many others during this difficult time and hope that the fact so many have benefited and will have better lives because of that strength will help comfort your loved ones.

Sending you love and hugs, please let me know if there is anything I can do

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