Single Mother Working to Become RN, Help!

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    Hello all! I am a 29-year-old single mother of two. I am working on my prerequisites to get into a nursing program. For my writing class, I need to interview a single mother about the challenges she faced becoming an RN. My goal is to not only educate myself, but also others that are working towards this goal of the unknown hardships that may come along, as well as the benefits of this career for a single mother. If anyone would be willing to share their experience with me, it would be greatly appreciated. You can, of course, remain completely anonymous. My paper is due and I am getting desperate as all my other attempts have fallen through. If anyone could just briefly describe any of their experience during their journey or share some pointers, I would be eternally grateful. Here are the original questions I was going to ask for my interview, but again, any information at this point would be very helpful.

    1.Briefly describe your situation and what made you decide to become an RN.

    2.What are some of the unexpected roadblocks you ran into on your way to becoming an RN, and how did you overcome them?

    3.What was your experience finding job placement after school? Was it difficult?

    4. How does a single mother balance raising children and working as an RN?

    5. What are the factors a single mother should consider in pursuit of becoming an RN?

    6. Any other advice?

    Feel free to keep your answers brief, I know that your time is valuable.

    Thank you,

    Trista
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    Hopefully someone will respond more thoroughly, but since there are not yet any responses, I want to respond.

    Nursing is an incredible and rewarding career, and certainly a lucrative choice for a single mother in terms of education required/salary.

    That said, and I am not a single mother myself, I have a number of colleagues that have difficulties balancing nursing committments and child care. It depends where you end up, I think, but where I am, our schedules change often and there are a lot of traveling committments/seminars/etc. that my friends really struggle to balance with child care demands. If you have someone super reliable, it should be fine, as I don't meant to sound discouraging, it's just that in terms of scheduling, nursing is certainly not the easiest career!

    I wish you luck in working toward becoming a nurse because it is honestly the best job ever! xo
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    1.briefly describe your situation and what made you decide to become an rn.
    when i decided i wanted to become a rn i was not single yet, but i decided i wanted to become a nurse after the birth of my second son (he is now 9, and i graduate in 16 weeks) i have 2 boys (the youngest is special needs) and i am a full time single parent (meaning the donor hasnt seen them in 8years), i used to manage a fast food resturant, i wanted to have a job in which i could make a differance in peoples lives, that when i delt with a customer compliant it wasnt because thier taco order was wrong, a job that had meaning to it, plus i needed to be able to support my children because it was becoming apparent that i would be a single mom

    2.what are some of the unexpected roadblocks you ran into on your way to becoming an rn, and how did you overcome them?
    it took me 9 years, to get from the idea of becoming a nurse to being weeks away from graduation. the hardest part was figuring out how to manage the money to make ends meet to make things work, plus how to manage your time so the kids dont get lost in the shuffle of school. i am very lucky that i have a lot of support from my family that with out them i could not have made it through school. my mom babysits even at those 5 am clinical times, and there have been times after my dad has been to my house to visit that i have found a check tucked into my laptop for me to find next time i went to study

    3.what was your experience finding job placement after school? was it difficult?
    n/a still in school

    4. how does a single mother balance raising children and working as an rn?
    although i am not yet a rn, i have worked the schedule of 3 12s a week as a tech and make time each day to spend some special time with your kids, even if it just a 5 min conversation in thier bed,

    5. what are the factors a single mother should consider in pursuit of becoming an rn?
    you can not do everything and be everywhere. my oldest does a lot of sports and i would go to his games with textbook in hand and when he wasnt playing i would be reading. don't let the pta/classroom/stay at home "soccer moms" make you feel bad because you are not at the school evey minute. i am a involved parent i just dont live at my childs school. i am being a great role model for my children
    6. any other advice?
    have a back up for the back up for the back up on babysitters, know what you are going to do if and when the car breaks down and you have clinicals in the morning, know when you need to take a break and ask for help
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    1.Briefly describe your situation and what made you decide to become an RN.
    I am the single mom of a 20 year old special needs daughter. I decided to become a nurse for many reasons, I was interested in healthcare, my grandmother was harmed by a nurse, my old job was not all that meaningful, and I needed to make money.

    2.What are some of the unexpected roadblocks you ran into on your way to becoming an RN, and how did you overcome them?
    The biggest roadblock was getting loans, it was totally unexpected because the private school I went to reassured me it would be no problem. I almost had to drop out but then a relative came thru to be a co-signer.


    3.What was your experience finding job placement after school? Was it difficult?
    I found a job a month after I got my license. It was not a good job and I had to move but it was easy to find. Then a year later out of the blue I got another job offer from a hospital in my hometown so I moved back and it is a lovely place to work. I have been very lucky.


    4. How does a single mother balance raising children and working as an RN?
    I would not want to do 12 hour shifts with small children. It takes too much out of you. I work 4 8 hour shifts a week and I am so much happier. Also, it would be easier to find childcare to cover my hours.

    5. What are the factors a single mother should consider in pursuit of becoming an RN?
    Have back up plans for child care, back ups to back ups. Know that you are setting a great example for your children, let them see and help you study. Don't give up, after school is over it will be so worth it!

    6. Any other advice?
    Go ahead and become a nurse!
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    I love you all, seriously. This information is extremely helpful. You all literally just boosted my grade and helped me get a better sense of what I am getting into. It will be hard, but it will be worth it. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

    Trista
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    From my experience, it all depends on your family and finding a supportive employer.
    I had no local family, therefore no "free" childcare, so planning for childcare costs and scheduling for school hours is essential.
    Employers vary as to whether they will accomodate requests for child-friendly hours. I have never heard of any overnight childcare, so nights are out. Day shift will only work if you employ someone to get your kids to school and watch them afterwards.
    I was already an RN when I became a single mom, so I can't answer your questions about nursing school. But think long term, do you really want a paid carer looking after your kids while you are out there paying for them?
    I opted to take office work and other 9-5 jobs until my son was around 14, then i went back to nursing properly, (I had done per diem only to keep my licence) and I am glad I did it that way. They only have one childhood.


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