Really starting to get depressed

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    Ok so i'm a nursing student and have been reading through everyones post. I have to say the ALOT of what i'm reading is negative. I read about bulling, back stabbing, no jobs, long hours, getting beat up by people you care for. So why is everyone still a nurse if it's sooooo bad. I mean it really depresses me because i want to be a nurse so bad but now it sounds so awful to me. Is it really that bad? Are other nurses really that horrible? And is it REALLY that hard to find a job? And also alot of people are saying the pay sucks......i thought nurses made very good money considering the times. (Also i know i can't spell)lol
    Last edit by Joe V on Apr 19, '11 : Reason: formatting for easier reading
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    Quote from Whitney1987
    Ok so i'm a nursing student and have been reading through everyones post. I have to say the ALOT of what i'm reading is negative. I read about bulling, back stabbing, no jobs, long hours, getting beat up by people you care for. So why is everyone still a nurse if it's sooooo bad. I mean it really depresses me because i want to be a nurse so bad but now it sounds so awful to me. Is it really that bad? Are other nurses really that horrible? And is it REALLY that hard to find a job? And also alot of people are saying the pay sucks......i thought nurses made very good money considering the times. (Also i know i can't spell)lol
    A lot of people come to this website to vent. A lot of things about nursing ARE negative, but not everything is. There is some bullying, although I've never experienced it or witnessed it--my manager don't play that! There is backstabbing. This, I have witnessed unfortunately. Jobs ARE hard to find. But, it's not just in Nursing. Getting beat up by pts is not an expected part of the job. I would say it's pretty rare. I've seen it, but never experienced it.

    I, personally, don't enjoy bedside nursing, but I don't plan on doing it forever, so I just suck it up. The pay isn't bad everywhere. But, I do think nurses, in general, are underpaid for the work we do. There's too much mental and physical stress. I don't consider what I make good pay at all and I make at least $22/hr base. I think it freakin' sucks.

    You can't take EVERYTHING you read here to heart because like I said, a lot of it is venting.
    Last edit by Joe V on Apr 19, '11 : Reason: formatting for easier reading
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    First off, you need to know that a lot of people come here to vent. My husband is more than willing to listen to me gripe about a bad night at work, but he doesn't get it the way another nurse does. I come here to vent because there are sympathetic ears who can understand my frustrations or help me with my issues or questions.

    I can honestly say that I have more good shifts at work than bad. When I have a string of bad shifts, it usually has something to do with what is going on in my life outside of work, not really what is happening at work. I try to stay positive. Not to say that things never go wrong. Sometimes co-workers suck, sometimes we are understaffed and sometimes the pts are just super needy and annoying! No work place in perfect, but you can make the best of any situation.

    As far as pay goes, nurses will never make enough money. How do you put a price on the services of someone who may just save your life??? I do feel that I make a nice salary, especially considering I only work three days a week.

    Don't give up on your dream of nursing. I feel like I have a job where I make a difference and change people's lives. My job matters and that makes it worth it to me.
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    Quote from Whitney1987
    Ok so i'm a nursing student and have been reading through everyones post. I have to say the ALOT of what i'm reading is negative. I read about bulling, back stabbing, no jobs, long hours, getting beat up by people you care for. So why is everyone still a nurse if it's sooooo bad. I mean it really depresses me because i want to be a nurse so bad but now it sounds so awful to me. Is it really that bad? Are other nurses really that horrible? And is it REALLY that hard to find a job? And also alot of people are saying the pay sucks......i thought nurses made very good money considering the times. (Also i know i can't spell)lol
    Sure, bullying and back-stabbing happen... though they happen in other fields, too. It does seem a bit more tolerated or expected in nursing for some reason but any individual can do a lot to foster or discourage that behavior toward themselves.

    No jobs... well, that's an exaggeration as I presume you realize but jobs are very competitive right now.

    Long hours... Pretty much either 8s or 12s (my favorite) and then paid OT after that. Nothing much to complain about with 1.5x or 2x pay. I used to be salaried and often worked 55-65 hour weeks while only drawing pay for 40.

    Everyone isn't still a nurse... To whatever degree "everyone" is, it's because (a) they don't have any other options, (b) they can put up with the crap, or (c) their workplace isn't so bad.

    Is "it" so bad? "It" really depends... there are hundreds of thousands of nurses in the US... it's not horrible for everybody... or probably even most. It is, however, pretty bad for enough of them for you to hear about it.

    Some nurses are that horrible... most (from what I've seen) are not. However, there are a number of nurses with whom I work that are labeled "horrible" or other derogatory terms and yet I have no trouble with them. Is it me, or them, or the ones doing the labeling? Dunno...

    Money... some do make very good money, most make OK money, and some are really getting screwed. Personally, I'm somewhere in the middle of the spectrum between the latter two and moving toward the third.

    And yes, for new grads particularly, it *IS* that hard to find a decent job.
    Last edit by Joe V on Apr 19, '11 : Reason: formatting for easier reading
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    I agree with PP. I don't mean to sound harsh - but there are A LOT of nursing students who read here and post the exact same thing. That's why there are categorized boards - so you can chat with other nursing students, who may be people who are having similar experiences and in a similar place.

    Nurses come to this board to vent - while a lot of nursing IS sweet old people and cuddly babies and generally feeling like you're helping out humanity, there's also backstabbing and horrible nights and a lousy job market - just like any OTHER profession that you might go into.

    Don't let this board be the deciding factor on whether you're going to like nursing. Are you genuinely interested in what you're studying? Do you like clinicals? Are you going into nursing for the big money and the great hours and the unlimited job prospects? If the answers, in order, are yes, yes and no - then you're going to be fine. And if you can't handle a tough job market, the occasional grumpy co-worker, and a few bad days at work - then you won't be OK in ANY profession.

    Good luck to you - and remember: we really don't post when we have The Perfect Day. There's no point, because we can tell all of THOSE stories to our S.O.'s, family and friends. It's the crappy days that require support from fellow nurses - and that's what's behind those posts you're seeing.
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    Chill. If you let other people (especially faceless people in chat rooms) determine your path in life... well, your problem isn't with nursing.

    Buck up. Decide what you want to do and go for it.
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    I feel you. I'm so disillusioned that I've become determined to get my 2000 hours and get a masters in PA not NP....I want nothing to do with nursing. 1800 hours to go.
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    Take from a current nursing student who is going to graduate this year (god willing that is, lol)

    Any job has its ups and downs, nursing included. There are maybe 100-300 complaints on average daily on the site, but 498,551 nurses talking about nurses, as of 2337 central time. That is a pretty good statistic if you ask me.
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    Here's hoping fewer and fewer people decide to enter nursing and that more and more people decide to leave it. I won't be one of them and should therefore benefit from numbers which favor the employees rather than the present situation which favors employers.
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    Not sure if this helps you any, but I graduated in May 2010, got hired straight away into the unit I wanted, they paid for me to go back to school (I already had my BSN, they offered to pay tuition for further specialty studies), paid me full time wages when going to school, and now I am working in an awesome hospital, with awesome peers (except 1 but hey can't win em all), with a really awesome, supportive manager who was a nurse for 20 years and totally 'gets it', I have a supportive union, and I make good money for someone with my experience.

    Sometimes I read these boards and think perhaps I am the exception to the rule, and maybe I am. But just know that not everyone hates their job, not everyone is constantly on high alert for being backstabbed,..... there ARE jobs out there that aren't bad.

    Some people are bitter for not finding a job quickly; and I mean I get that it can be depressing. I guess I just got lucky geographically speaking. Being unemployed causes huge amounts of stress which can translate into some pretty ugly/dark/depressing/negative posts.

    If nursing is what you WANT to do, I would get in to it. The job opportunities come and go in waves- look back historically- one moment, they're hiring in droves, the next- they're not hiring hardly at all- the next, back to hiring in droves. I suspect with the aging population this will slowly lean more towards the droves side...... however there are also way more nursing schools now too.

    If it's something you want to do, do it. The recession has put a damper on all professions, not just nursing, so you might not get hired into something else, either.
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