I work as a nurse assistant in a nursing home, and I have this charming resident that I created a professional yet personal bound with.
I would like to do something special for him, and I need your advice.
The patient is an older man who is bed-ridden, can not speak or write (as his fine movements are greatly impaired), and he loves "Iron-Man" movie.
I was thinking of loading my iPod with some nice, ambient music and let him listen to it until my shift is over. Or perhaps buying an "Iron-Man movie for him (I gave up on the idea as he does not have a DVD player in his room).
I feel touched and moved by seeing my patients laying in the bed every day, being unable to express their thoughts, being completely cognitively aware, yet still having a smile on their faces and showing respect to us - caregivers.
I do not want to cross the line of being professional, yet I would like to show him my sympathies, and and let him know that I care.
What do you suggest?
Feb 13, '10
How sweet of you! :] Hearing that people feel this way really warms my heart.
I don't think letting him listen to your iPod would be a problem, but most facilities would frown upon buying gifts for residents.
When in doubt, ask your Charge Nurse or DON. They should be able to find the most appropriate option in this case.
Feb 14, '10
Aww how thoughtful and sweet of you
And just a little side note- I'm thinking, that empathy might be a better way to say it. And your thoughts are special.
Feb 14, '10
Sharing music is a great gesture, and putting together a playlist for him would show a lot of thought. Maybe some music from when he was younger? Cole Porter, Sinatra, or classic country?
Feb 27, '10
In ICU, when we bathe our ventilated patients at night (all ventilated patients get bathed on nights), we sing. We sing and wash and sing and wash and dance. Many patients have remarked, after they've been allowed to come out of the sedation, that their best memories were of our singing.
I have to confess that I have a terrible singing voice, but I sing to my patients anyway. I credit my singing to the "miraculous" recovery of a severely head-injured young man. I have no doubt that he woke up from his coma so he could say, "Stop! Stop singing!" lol
That dear young man made a full recovery.
Apr 13, '10
You could always make him a card. That's just something you could drop by every once in a while to make his day brighter