Stress, students and stomach aches - a minor rantRegister Today!
- by Flare Apr 29Just had a teacher pop her head in to let me know that a student that she has sent down to me for stomach aches several times (that i have sent back to class usually after a short assessment and have also seen for many many c/o nausea, stomach aches) was hospitalized last week for an attempted suicide. Her tone came off as accusatory and almost gloating that thought i had been dismissive of this student. In reality, I had called and spoken with this student's family twice already this year about frequent visits and possible stressors. And I had sent this student home for stomach aches and vomiting just a week or so earlier.
Mind you, this is my first year in this district, the last nurse was here 25+ years and knew everything about everyone. The staff has been having a bit of a hard time adjusting to me and seem to forget that i've been a school nurse for over 10 years now.
I know that school is a rough time for kids. I know that students get a lot of non descript symptoms when they are feeling stressed and they may not even recognize that they are even under stress. And I try to do everything in my power to be supportive and positive for the students. But the staff needs to realize that #1 - we are school nurses, not miracle workers (over worked, tired...often working through lunch - ask a teacher to skip their lunch or prep and see how the fur flies). #2 we can't send home a kid each and every time his/her tummy hurts - especially if there is no vomiting involved. Maybe a little rest, but some of these kids would choose to rest here all day if they could. We have to pick and choose our interventions for what is appropriate for what we assess at that event #3 I am not trying to be mean, and i certainly don't want to see a child hurt themself or worse - i just want to see these kids succeed and learn how to work through their problems.
ok, rant over....
- Apr 29 by ktwlpnQUOTE<Just had a teacher pop her head in to let me know that a student that she has sent down to me for stomach aches several times (that i have sent back to class usually after a short assessment and have also seen for many many c/o nausea, stomach aches) was hospitalized last week for an attempted suicide. Her tone came off as accusatory and almost gloating that thought i had been dismissive of this student. QUOTE< Yeah,well-apparently the teacher was just as dismissive if either one of you could be called that(and I don't believe that's fair and true) My sister is a retired teacher and has shared some horror stories with me-things that really shocked me and she didn't even teach in an urban environment.The stuff you folks deal with in schools can be really challenging.She has also told me about the support that is available to teachers involved in this type of thing and apparently this teacher is in need of some of that...Bless u for dealing with kids.....
- Apr 29 by 1feistymamaYou did everything you could by talking with the child when she came to you and calling the parents to express concern. Thankfully, the child in your school didn't succeed and still has opportunity to get help.
One of my son's peers committed suicide near the beginning of the school year. He was 13 and in the 8th grade. I had never heard of a teen so young even attempting suicide. My son didn't know him personally but shared rumors that were going around school. His friends said there were problems at home but he seemed to have a lot of friends at school and got along well with everyone. One Monday morning, he ended everything rather than go to school.
I was in tears when I learned of this. I hugged my son over and over and told him to never never think about suicide. No matter what problems he faces, we will always help and there will always be a way out. He saw me cry for a kid I had never met and express my concern for the parents and siblings who will forever feel grief over this. I can only hope and pray my message got through.Last edit by 1feistymama on Apr 29 : Reason: Formatting
- Apr 29 by nrsang97We had a kid kill himself in a local school bathroom. Another student found him. I believe they were in like 8th grade. Who knows why he did it. Rumors were bullying then it was found he was a popular student. Who knows what his reason was?
I definitely couldn't work with kids. I am glad that there are those of you who love it.
- Apr 29 by amygarsideThis is really a hard situation. Kids these days have more stress compared to the early years.
- Apr 29 by TerpGal02I work inpt psych at a hospital that treats adults and child and adolescent. What I can tell you is that I can count on my hand the number of admissions I have done (esp with the kids) that recurrent stomach aches were NOT a somatic concern. Seems like a lot of kids hold all their anxiety in their stomach.
- Apr 30 by cav5This is a lot to work through. Right now there is a lot of "blame game" going on, while expected it is not helpful to anybody. You did the best that you could-teenagers especially don't open up. I say that as a school nurse and a mother of 3 teenagers. My thoughts and prayers go out to you because there for the grace of God go I and every one of us.
I won't say don't let her get to you because it already happened as she knew it would. I will say this...don't believe it to be true.
- Apr 30 by 100kidsI am so sad for what happenned and so angry this teacher thought it was ok to dump on you about it. They certainly have no clue about what we do, although I often find they want to tell me what to do and how I should be doing it. It's never easy making an assessment when someone has non descript pain/discomfort but no concrete signs of illness. We are put in the position of making judgements on who just needs an ear, or a hug and who needs real attention every day and I'm sorry for you that this happenned to one of your kids. I feel your pain on the being new in that district and dealing with the ghosts of nurses past. I sometimes still deal with that where I am. Stay strong and know you did what you could but never could have known this child's intentions. I for one know you're a great school nurse because your advice has helped me tremendously since I started!