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- Mar 27 by TheCommuterQuote from uthscsa2011Interesting. . . in my experience, many of the poverty-stricken parents I've met bum-rush their toddlers to be completely toilet-trained by the age of two. They start the toilet training process at 18 to 20 months and the kid is totally potty-trained at age two.But I honestly believe it is because I work at a poverty-stricken school.
The main reason: diapers are as expensive as heck for low income parents. Diapers are not covered by the various forms of public assistance such as WIC, SNAP/food stamps, section 8 vouchers, Medicaid, etc., so they must dip into their limited funds in order to purchase them.
- Mar 27 by needshaldolOk guys, here is my 2 cents. This child has emotional issues and this is his way of "controlling" what he can. He is getting attention. Perhaps he is a child that needs more attention at home than most.
I would not shame him, or yell, etc. as this could turn into something worse.
I would stay home with him and when he poops his pants see what he does. Let him sit in it, etc. If this child has no clue and does not mind then there is something wrong here. Some psych counseling for the parents and child is maybe in order.
- Mar 27 by paddleladyCAn be that he is not toilet trained. He may have some neuro deficit and not feel the urge to go until it is too late. He may be anxious at school .
Be nice to interview the parents. There can be something going on at home. He may not like using the toilet at school as someone mentioned. I know one of my sons did not like some bathrooms when we traveled and had a really hard time using some of them or would refuse.
If he is constipated what are the parents doing to adjust his diet? Needs more fluids and veges. Is he really that well behaved all the time?
Does he urinate in the toilet? What does the peds doc say about all this. Lots of questions and answers needed and then there can be a plan.
I have some friends that have autistic children and they are not toliet trained until they are 7 to 10 years old doesnt sound like he is on the autism spectrum. Just to clarify that point.
- Mar 27 by ktwlpnQuote fromThat worked for my son-he was toilet trained and then our family went through a rough patch and he began to have accidents.The pediatrician recommended that approach. I laid out clean clothes and wipes in the bathroom and waited for the next accident.When it happened he was told to go in the bathroom and not come out until he was clean.I did end up going in an talking him through rinsing his unders in the toilet but he got the job done.I felt horrible because he bawled the whole time but the doc told me to stand firm so I did. He never had another accident.
One day her son pooped in his jeans. She got fed up one day, ran some soapy bath water, and made the boy clean the poop from his pants and undergarments. Miraculously, after this incident [Ihe never pooped on himself ever again[/I]. After being forced to clean his poopy jeans, he started defecating at the toilet.
I'm thinking "since when is this the school's concern?' There are so many issues that can be causing this and it's up to the family and their pediatrician to solve the problem.I wouldn't want my child to be known throughout his school years as "the kid who crapped his pants in school" I feel he is not ready for kindergarten.Isn't continence of bowel and bladder a basic requirement for school children? I really don't think this issue should be dealt with a school.
- Mar 27 by needshaldolOk Now for my 3 cents worth. I have a friend who's daughter had this problem. Child was checked out at Stanford and there was nothing physically wrong with the child. Parents had to take child out of one school and send to another when child in middle school due to bullying. Now this child is 18 yrs old and has been in and out of psych treatment. Does not poop in pants anymore but is with mental issues. I would take this small child mentioned to psych counseling.
- Mar 27 by stephaniemariedHmm.. embarrassment in using the toilet at school sounds definitely possible...
- Mar 27 by TiffyRNWow, what a huge variety of causes this thread has exposed. This was a problem for my step-son that I became aware of when I became part of the family and he was 7. It took me about a year to convince dad this is not normal, or poor cleaning habits. We tried behavioral tactics, having the child clean his own clothing, monitoring him closely for bathroom habits, so many things. Finally, he wound up in counseling with a child psychologist, who never got anywhere or found anything real to work on. At around age 9, he had a partial answer was found. I made him an appointment with a pedi gastroenterologist who determined he was chronically constipated and this was likely due to his severely restricted diet. Oh yea, step-son only ate a list of about 10 items, none of which had much fiber in them. The MD prescribed miralax but said the problem would persist until the child added more fiber to his diet.
Getting this child to eat varied items was impossible, when I say impossible, I'm serious, he would rather starve than eat something he didn't want. The reason for this became clear a couple of years later when he had extensive testing at school which discovered he had Asperger's Syndrome. These kids are very set in their ways and follow strict routines, this child's affected his dietary choices. Sometime in middle school he stopped soiling his pants. Social pressure means very little to children with Asperger's by the way, I'm not sure what helped him stop soiling, it was not due to him changing his diet.
So the soiling resolved, but then the child was a teenager and his Asperger's made him resistant to using soap or shampoo due to tactile issues. So he still stunk (and still struggles with this as an adult).
My recommendation would obviously be to assess the child's physical health, but be aware that there are many varying causes of stool soiling.
- Mar 27 by PalmHarborMomHere is a suggestion.... My son was 4 1/2 before he started using the toilet AT ALL. His biggest issue with accidents after that was that he seemed to sense that he was going to miss something.... i.e. there is something happening that he really enjoys & doesn't want to stop. I started taking him the the restroom every 15 minutes and made sure that we were really strict about it when he wanted to do what was going on. If he used the restroom, he did not have to start the every 15 minute restroom breaks for 2 hours. It did not take but a few days for him to figure out that if he used the restroom that he actually missed less of an activity than going every 15 minutes. After 4 days total, he was fully potty trained. So just a thought.