Quote from bluebonnetrn
So... in a somewhat related question.... How exactly do you handle this talk? I just had a teacher send a kid to me by saying "the nurse asked to see you". Actually I did not and on top of that had no idea and so when the kid came in and said I wanted to see her I told her (truthfully) no I didn't. Well, then they decided to let me know and sent her back. She's also a kid that I NEVER see so I couldn't even make some reason up on the fly. (Hearing and vision checks are all done so that would maybe work in the beginning of the year but not now)
What exactly do you say? "Well your teacher said you stink bad so she sent you down here". If they are in the clinic for other reasons and I notice a smell or I have some history from the teacher that there have been issues, it's very easy to just slip info in in a non-confrontational, conversational way. But when you send them for no other reason? I just see that as a recipe to humiliate someone.
We do address hygiene through our maturation curriculum but that addresses the students all together and does not single anyone out.
Another thing - if you are their teacher, can you not just pull them aside and say something? You have more of a relationship with them than I do.
So how do y'all address it?
Well, this would create a Hallmark moment between myself and this teacher. Now, given a moment's notice I can be very direct about hygiene, yet still very nice about it. And on top of that, it's a conversation that I choose to have with student's with a little
discretion. I certainly don't want to tell a kid "you need to bathe" (the nicest way possible) in front of a room of their peers. Kids are cruel enough on their own. They don't need to be given ammunition.
So onto your question: There is no script. I too, try to be gentle. Maybe discuss changing bodies if the child is of age of puberty. If I don't know too much about the kid, i gently try to find out about home life - is there running water, hot water for bathing, a lot of people in the house, is it difficult to get toiletries. I always have a few deodorants on hand for children. They are welcome to them if they need them. Same thing with toothbrushes. In fact, if i check a student's throat and notice decay, i will always ask if the student has a toothbrush. I am shocked at the amount of times they tell me no. They leave my office with a handful of toothbrushes and a phone call to a parent telling that they need to get to a dentist NOW.