My dad died yesterday

  1. My dad was diagnosed with NASH three years ago, and one of the things NASH makes you more prone to is liver cancer. Back in April he was diagnosed with stage 2 liver cancer. He spent all Summer getting tested/prepped for a transplant and a couple weeks ago, developed complications with kidney involvement. Developed Hepatorenal Syndrome. My stepmother called me last Wednesday to tell me he was no longer a candidate for transplant and they were discharging him home with palliative care and hospice. He got discharged on Thanksgiving Day. I flew down to VA with my 12 year old son and 10 year old daughter to be with him, say our goodbyes, etc. Those four days were the worst, but also most special days. I am trying to be grateful that we had time to say goodbye. We put up a tree for him that the kids decorated, we told stories, we cried A LOT, he gave us each a special gift. Leaving was the hardest thing to do, but I wanted to remember him that way and also wanted my kids to remember him that way. We left Monday night and he fell into a deep sleep shortly after we left and passed away yesterday peacefully with his wife of 30 years by his side.

    Losing a parent really sucks, at any age. I am most sad that my two kids will not have their amazing grandpa watch them grow up. I am 44 and this is my first experience with a very close loved one passing away. There is nothing to describe it.

    Just needed to share with my virtual nursing station. I am at work as the funeral isn't until next week and a lot of the arrangements were already made before he passed away. I need to be around my sweet little K-2 kiddos to help get me through my day, so staying home under the covers was not an option for me.

    Thanks for listening
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  2. 69 Comments

  3. by   Silverdragon102
    Sorry for your loss
  4. by   moreoreo
    I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. He sounds like an amazing man and I know his goodness has been instilled with you in a way that your children (at home and at school) are surely blessed by it too. Praying for comfort and healing for you and your family!
  5. by   dakotadenise
    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad over 20 years ago and it sometimes feels like just yesterday. That kind of loss is something that you move on from, but just never quite get over. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.
  6. by   NutmeggeRN
    I am so sorry for your loss. What a gift that you were able to be there.

    We are here for you.
  7. by   GdBSN
    I am so sorry for your loss. Cherish those special memories. I'm praying for you and your family.
  8. by   Flare
    i am so sorry for your loss. We're here for you.
  9. by   OhioBPH
    I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you and your children find comfort in your memories moving forward.
  10. by   ruby_jane
    This is such a beautiful story - I'm crying for you and mom and the kids but hey - he fell peacefully asleep after making a bunch of amazing memories. Let that thought hold you over the next year.

    This will hit you in a lot of ways for a while. Then you won't think about it so much, although you still may be doing something totally unrelated and you'll think about your dad (not as vivid, and it likely won't make you as sad).

    All the hugs from Texas.
  11. by   ohiobobcat
    I am so sorry for your loss. I love that you and your children were able to spend time with him, and I am sure your dad loved it , too.

    My thoughts are with you, MHD.
  12. by   ctate
    Prayers headed your and your kiddo's way.
  13. by   Supernrse01
    I am so very sorry. Sending prayers of comfort and peace for you and your family.
  14. by   Farawyn
    Quote from MHDNURSE
    My dad was diagnosed with NASH three years ago, and one of the things NASH makes you more prone to is liver cancer. Back in April he was diagnosed with stage 2 liver cancer. He spent all Summer getting tested/prepped for a transplant and a couple weeks ago, developed complications with kidney involvement. Developed Hepatorenal Syndrome. My stepmother called me last Wednesday to tell me he was no longer a candidate for transplant and they were discharging him home with palliative care and hospice. He got discharged on Thanksgiving Day. I flew down to VA with my 12 year old son and 10 year old daughter to be with him, say our goodbyes, etc. Those four days were the worst, but also most special days. I am trying to be grateful that we had time to say goodbye. We put up a tree for him that the kids decorated, we told stories, we cried A LOT, he gave us each a special gift. Leaving was the hardest thing to do, but I wanted to remember him that way and also wanted my kids to remember him that way. We left Monday night and he fell into a deep sleep shortly after we left and passed away yesterday peacefully with his wife of 30 years by his side.

    Losing a parent really sucks, at any age. I am most sad that my two kids will not have their amazing grandpa watch them grow up. I am 44 and this is my first experience with a very close loved one passing away. There is nothing to describe it.

    Just needed to share with my virtual nursing station. I am at work as the funeral isn't until next week and a lot of the arrangements were already made before he passed away. I need to be around my sweet little K-2 kiddos to help get me through my day, so staying home under the covers was not an option for me.

    Thanks for listening
    I'm so, so sorry.
    Love to you and your family.

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