Is the concept of respect dead?

llg, PhD, RN · Mar 13, 2015

What's up?

Bad parenting

Wave Watcher · Mar 14, 2015

What's up?
Bad parenting

And kids feel entitlement. Like their parents or their elders "owe" them something.

Editorial Team / Admin · Mar 14, 2015

Society changes: now, both parents are commonly working outside the home, leaving children to fend for themselves or being in day cares where there isn't as much individualized attention. Less time to teach children respect. Less time spent being an example to children. Is it necessarily bad parenting? Maybe, in some cases. In most, it just seems that society is evolving, and not in good ways at all times (there are some good changes out there that kind of balance the bad). But as with everything, there is a cycle, and we will probably see the pendulum swing the other way in the distant future.

SnowyJ, RN · Mar 15, 2015

Oh yes...I have seen phone calls home with whining, nastiness and even slamming down of the phone. I was horrified at the phone slam. I made her call her Mom back and apologize after we had a chat about how disrespectful that was.

I think when the parents set the tone and tolerate this nonsense, it continues.

But not on my watch.

CamillusRN, BSN · Mar 15, 2015

Can't speak to school nursing, but definitely seeing it in the ER on a daily basis. These days, my faith in the next generation goes straight down the toilet with each pediatric visit.

SnowyJ, RN · Mar 15, 2015

I think there is an extreme across the board lack of respect in society. For Police officers, nurses, teachers, parents, etc.

There was a time when certain professions were revered and respected. I see an real trend away from that. It's troubling to say the least.

Even just common manners...Please and thank you. A kind word, a smile. They go a long way.

A&Ox6, MSN, RN · Mar 16, 2015

Well do many of the schools nowadays pride themselves in developing "questioning minds".

In my experience that is code for children who lack discipline.

100kids, BSN, RN · Mar 16, 2015

I'm big on manners in my room. No barging in and making demands, you must use please and thank you. I make my own kids do it, I make the students in the school do it. Why don't people realize how important these basic things are?

Flare, ASN, BSN · Mar 16, 2015

oh, yes, yes!! I have been aghast by children standing in my office and using my phone and then hearing them demand they their parents come and pick them up NOW. (often times demanding them to leave work. ) Granted, I always get to talk to the parents first to prime them of the situation and tell them what i think is going on - i'm sure we all do before we hand the phone over. But once I head these little darlings start saying things like "you're stupid" to their parents or the water works start because their parent is presumably telling them to go back to class - i feel like the conversation is over and little darling can calm them self down and go back to class.

Farawyn · Mar 16, 2015

I really like all the kids. HS kids are funny.

I have some favorites. I mostly like the "bad" kids, meaning the ones who come in and they are simply screaming for attention. I do the Tough Mom thing and they eat it up. Funnily enough, they aren't rude and are the most responsive to "Please and Thank you" when they are. They don't mind being corrected.

Oftentimes it is the popular kid that is the most rude.

fetch, BSN, RN · Mar 16, 2015

Thankfully most of my population's rudeness is the barging in, talking to me while I'm talking to another student, not saying please/thank you, etc. I think I would lose my cool if a child started yelling at their parent in my clinic! There are some kids who do that at this school - but all the ones I've seen, it's related to a mental health issue.

Like others said, I'll make the kids go back into the hallway and enter quietly, I'll tell them to be quiet and not interrupt, I'll prompt them for please/thank you, etc.