Convincing a male to wear a condom?

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    Hi,

    I am being sincere with my question. I think most people on AN know that one of my interests is public health. I think it is wonderful to have the knowledge of how to prevent STIs and pregnancy using a condom, how to put it on, etc. But, one thing I have noticed from my nursing education (no nursing experience yet) and from personal experience, is that convincing a guy to wear a condom is not easy. Therefore, all that education/knowledge and giving people condoms to prevent STIs and pregnancy goes out the window.

    When I asked a public health nurse how to get guys to wear one, it was just tell them you won't have sex with them unless they do. I think sometimes that can be dangerous, especially if the guy is big and the girl is petite and can't fend him off.

    Is there anything else that a woman can tell a guy that he would willingly agree to wear a condom? It would be nice to have suggestions for women (or men) if I ever get a public health nurse job or any nursing job that a client may ask the same question that I asked.

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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    Hi,



    When I asked a public health nurse how to get guys to wear one, it was just tell them you won't have sex with them unless they do. I think sometimes that can be dangerous, especially if the guy is big and the girl is petite and can't fend him off.

    Is there anything else that a woman can tell a guy that he would willingly agree to wear a condom?
    This concerns me. If you fear for your safety, you shouldn't be in a situation where you fear saying "No rubber, no lovin".

    I've worked with sex trade workers who would come in and pick up handfuls of free condoms. One woman told me that the extra cash wasn't worth a death sentence. If a professional can make a paying customer see sense, I think a mature woman in a mutually giving relationship should be able to make her partner see sense.
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    Fiona, I have been in situations where I was not in a relationship and the guy was a person I just met, went to his house or got into his car (has happened both ways) as a acquaintance, at most a friend, and felt pressured to have sex (intercourse and other). Sometimes, it is not planned nor is it a guy or partner that a person knows right off the bat is not a good person to hang out with. Needless to say, I didn't see those guys again after.

    People (I say people because I think pressure can come from both men and women; women can become pregnant though, so that adds another reason for her to either wear a female condom or her partner to wear one) can convince others to have sex by persuasion, force, or making fun of them.
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    Fiona, I have been in situations where I was not in a relationship and the guy was a person I just met, went to his house or got into his car (has happened both ways) as a acquaintance, at most a friend, and felt pressured to have sex (intercourse and other). Sometimes, it is not planned nor is it a guy or partner that a person knows right off the bat is not a good person to hang out with. Needless to say, I didn't see those guys again after.

    People (I say people because I think pressure can come from both men and women; women can become pregnant though, so that adds another reason for her to either wear a female condom or her partner to wear one) can convince others to have sex by persuasion, force, or making fun of them.
    Personally. If I were giving advise to someone and they felt pressure to have sex I would be talking to them more about how to get a guy to wear a condemn. A person should always have the right to say no. And if you don't feel comfortable saying no that's a whole other bucket of issues.
    labradane, anotherone, wooh, and 6 others like this.
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    OP, you describe situations of sex via coercion. You seem to imply the possibility of physical force being used with your reference to the potential size/strength disparity between partners. This is rape ... and a rapist in the act of committing a crime is not going to be convinced to use a condom.

    Nurses -- those that practice in public health and those that practice in other settings -- provide a great deal of education on sexuality, safe sex practices. We also educate about healthy relationships, free from physical, emotional and sexual abuse.
    catmom1, psu_213, anotherone, and 8 others like this.
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    Fiona, I have been in situations where I was not in a relationship and the guy was a person I just met, went to his house or got into his car (has happened both ways) as a acquaintance, at most a friend, and felt pressured to have sex (intercourse and other). Sometimes, it is not planned nor is it a guy or partner that a person knows right off the bat is not a good person to hang out with. Needless to say, I didn't see those guys again after.



    People (I say people because I think pressure can come from both men and women; women can become pregnant though, so that adds another reason for her to either wear a female condom or her partner to wear one) can convince others to have sex by persuasion, force, or making fun of them.
    Why would you get into a car with or go to the house of someone you barely know?
    Dazglue, Rose_Queen, ajaxgirl, and 1 other like this.
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    So, the only thing to tell a client to tell a partner is no condom, no sex? I wish there was something else that a guy would want to wear one.
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    Quote from wish_me_luck
    So, the only thing to tell a client to tell a partner is no condom, no sex? I wish there was something else that a guy would want to wear one.
    I think you're missing the underlying total lack of concern present in a man's mind ... if the threat of pregnancy, fatherhood and/or sexually transmitted infections AND/OR the expressed desire of his female partner for him to wear a condom isn't enough to "convince" him ... no magic education from a nurse is going to change that.
    Not_A_Hat_Person, psu_213, Kimbsntobe, and 11 others like this.
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    I can think of several ways but that is just me being me and sinister... I know you want serious answers so I will leave

    Couldn't agree more with Altra's statement..Young people have the mind set of "not me", they think they can do anything and nothing "bad" will happen.


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