Private duty annoyances

I've been doing private duty RN level cases for close to 4 years now. I really do like it as I was a very burned out hospital nurse. But there are annoyances! One being family dynamics and issues. One case I was on for a long time, the family essentially withdrew and let the nurses take over. Nice, in a way. But there was no team approach with her care and the parents really should have been more involved....Sometimes the nurse would need a hand and the parents did not want to help or helped begrudgingly. Sad.

But now I have the opposite issue. I have been on my present case for over a year, and the mother is really starting to get to me! I've tolerated it just fine all this time, but now I have suddenly had it. This mother is involved in ALL aspects of her daughter's care. She takes the lead with all care, and the nurse is essentially just a helper. Nice, in a way. Great team approach. BUT this mother is anal! She is so precise and particular about how everything must be done. Everything must be done her EXACT way. Sometimes she criticizes every little thing you do. "Pull the chucks this way, not that way." "The water is too hot." (or it is too cold!) "You pushed the medication too fast." (or you pushed it too slow!) "You got the wrong washcloth, I wanted the other one." The other night she picked a dirty washcloth out of the dirty clothes hamper (that I put in there) saying it was "too dirty" to go in the hamper and only "mildly dirty" things could go in the hamper. I KID YOU NOT! At one point recently, I got real close to saying something like this "I am going into the other room to watch TV, because I am obviously not competent to care for your daughter."

Well, I am just venting! That is all! Thanks for listening. I have several ideas to resolve this....may just be time for me to move on to another case.

At one point recently, I got real close to saying something like this "I am going into the other room to watch TV, because I am obviously not competent to care for your daughter."
....may just be time for me to move on to another case.

My reply is in blue...Thanks!