Talked out of nursing by others and myself.... - page 3

I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants.... Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in... Read More

  1. Visit  radicalsenseofhope profile page
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    Quote from ssferrans
    I am 41 with 4 kids and hoping to start a BSN program in January. My kids are ages 4 to 10 and I also homeschooled before going back to school. I went back to school for financial reasons and felt very guilty about not being able to continue providing my children's education. I am thankful that I was able to provide the oldest 3 with a solid foundation that has served them well in the classroom, and we continue to make an effort to supplement their education outside the classroom. My husband is very supportive of me and that has helped immensely. My biggest regret is that I didn't go back to school after my first was born when I originally wanted to. I unfortunately listened to my family's opinions which were negative towards nursing. I have since realized the negativity mainly comes from them not wanting to personally be a nurse and in their eyes it is a step down. Consider your options and how they will affect your marriage and children and try to find the balance that is best for everyone.
    Thank you so much for sharing your story with me! It is a hard decision to be sure because even though we plan to continue homeschooling, I know I won't be nearly as involved as I have been.

    Us moms have so much guilt don't we? Kudos to you for going back to school for your family for financial reasons. My mom went to LPN school when I was 12, and I have always admired her for working so hard to keep us financially afloat and to achieve a better work life for herself (she worked full time as an aid before becoming a nurse).
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    Quote from 37 C
    You home school a 10- and 12-year-old? Who does the instructing? If you do, there it seems impractical for you to pursue a degree full-time. And you won't be cut much slack if you have to deal with child issues (illness, etc.).

    There are many things you can do with a nursing degree, but how do you know you want to be a nurse, rather than what you picture a nurse to be? Have you thought about volunteering at a hospital, and/or pursuing CNA certification, so you have closer exposure to nursing environments?

    If it's something you'd really like to do, then by all means, go for it. Don't pay attention to the naysayers.
    I do the instructing, but they do quite a bit independently these days as well. My husband is home often too and helps out. He is a firefighter/paramedic and only works every third day.

    I am pretty sure I want to be a nurse. I worked for a year as a CNA in a nursing home before I had kids. It was hard work, to be sure, and plenty of crappy days, but also plenty of good days too. I knew I was in the right career field my first week when a resident started throwing up and I helped her. After that I had many other moments that confirmed my desire to work in medicine/health care.

    Thanks for your advice and comments. :-)
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  3. Visit  radicalsenseofhope profile page
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    I want to thank you all so much for your comments! I am inspired by your stories, motivated by your advice, and thinking hard on some of the various perspectives and issues that have been pointed out. Thanks for taking the time to share a bit of yourselves with me.

    I am going to take some time to think about this decision. If I decide to take the plunge, I will begin retaking the 4 prereq classes I need this summer. I could be in a nursing program by Spring 2014 or Fall 2014. Exciting to think about. Lots of hard decisions and thinking yet to be done on this.

    I recently made a motivational wall for myself. Above the desk where I study, I taped up a bunch of inspirational and motivational quotes, sayings, advice from myself, etc. I thought I would share them:

    "Don't worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don't even try." -Jack Canfield

    No guilt! Your happiness, your dreams, and your goals are important too!

    "Decide what you want from life; create a plan and be willing to sacrifice everything else, rather than accept permanent defeat." -Napoleon Hill

    Eye on your goals! This too shall pass!

    Nurse Practitioner or Bust!

    "Failure is not an option!" -Apollo 13 mission

    With a radical sense of hope, I strive for the seemingly impossible.

    "When faced with a challenge, look for a way, not a way out." -David L. Weatherford

    "If we all did the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves." -Thomas Edison

    If you wait too long, dreams become regrets.

    I will be adding some of your inspiration words, stories, and advice to my wall!!!! Thanks again! :-)
  4. Visit  netglow profile page
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    Oh, I forgot to add this, prepare for the kids as well due to the fact that your clinical or lab time will be extensive. It won't be an hour or two of class or clinical time and then you go home. Depending on how your school does things you will in clinicals a full shift plus an hour or two over that time for instruction. So if you do 12 hour clinical shifts you would count on maybe 14 hours time plus your commute for those days. Then on top of that you have your normal hour long classes, plus your lab classes usually several hours of lab class, and then your study/reading/careplan time, and then the added research papers etc. on top of all that combined. It is a full time job.

    I just put that in because some people don't understand the time part, and now that you do, you'll think of a backup plan way ahead of time, simply because you won't be at home, and when you are home you will be doing college work.
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    Quote from netglow
    Oh, I forgot to add this, prepare for the kids as well due to the fact that your clinical or lab time will be extensive. It won't be an hour or two of class or clinical time and then you go home. Depending on how your school does things you will in clinicals a full shift plus an hour or two over that time for instruction. So if you do 12 hour clinical shifts you would count on maybe 14 hours time plus your commute for those days. Then on top of that you have your normal hour long classes, plus your lab classes usually several hours of lab class, and then your study/reading/careplan time, and then the added research papers etc. on top of all that combined. It is a full time job.

    I just put that in because some people don't understand the time part, and now that you do, you'll think of a backup plan way ahead of time, simply because you won't be at home, and when you are home you will be doing college work.
    Thanks so much for your input. The school I plan on attending does two clinical days a week from 7 to 3 both days (and likely some time before and after that as well). It will be rough, but thankfully it isn't 12 hour shifts, LOL! When I calculated up all the time it looks to be at least 40 hours a week (counting studying time at 2 hours minimum for every hour of lecture and lab). So yes, a full time job indeed. I'm hesitant to jump into this, but still motivated by my goals. Lots to consider.
  6. Visit  rosemrn profile page
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    I am 49yo and have been a nurse in Neuro ICU for the past 10 years. Didn't graduate from nursing school until I was 40. I have worked nights for the past 2 1/2 years and done fine. If people think 37 is old they are crazy!. Do what you love and love what you do. I say go for it!!!
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    Quote from rosemrn
    I am 49yo and have been a nurse in Neuro ICU for the past 10 years. Didn't graduate from nursing school until I was 40. I have worked nights for the past 2 1/2 years and done fine. If people think 37 is old they are crazy!. Do what you love and love what you do. I say go for it!!!
    Thank you so much for sharing! Stories such as yours are so inspirational to me. I will be just over 40 when I graduate if I go forward with this. It is awesome to hear that you are working nights successfully!
  8. Visit  opie1106 profile page
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    I had thought about being an RN way back when I was in high school but was discouraged from doing so by my mom, who would always tell me, "Nursing school would be SO hard! You have to know about as much as you would to be a doctor!" I was always a good student; I even tested into the gifted program, but just had it in my head that being an RN would just be too much for me to undertake. Fast forward 20-some years later. I'm now 41 and will be taking nursing prerequisites in the spring, as I try to be accepted into an accelerated BSN program. May the force be with me!!! I've never taken a chemistry course, or microbiology course ("too difficult!") according to my mom. It finally dawned on me that I'm not stupid and feel that I'm capable of doing well as long as I apply myself. I am certainly willing to learn. Wish me luck!!
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    Quote from opie1106
    I had thought about being an RN way back when I was in high school but was discouraged from doing so by my mom, who would always tell me, "Nursing school would be SO hard! You have to know about as much as you would to be a doctor!" I was always a good student; I even tested into the gifted program, but just had it in my head that being an RN would just be too much for me to undertake. Fast forward 20-some years later. I'm now 41 and will be taking nursing prerequisites in the spring, as I try to be accepted into an accelerated BSN program. May the force be with me!!! I've never taken a chemistry course, or microbiology course ("too difficult!") according to my mom. It finally dawned on me that I'm not stupid and feel that I'm capable of doing well as long as I apply myself. I am certainly willing to learn. Wish me luck!!
    Good luck to you! You can totally do it! My mom had a mom similar to yours. She was always discouraging her from doing things she deemed her incapable of. Because of that she has always encouraged me to follow my dreams, whatever they were.

    Your story makes an excellent point. We should not let others decide for us what we can and can't accomplish. No matter how well they know us. I can't let my husband keep talking me out of this if it is something I really want to do.

    I bet you are gonna rock your chemistry and microbiology! They aren't really that difficult if you stay on top of the material. I got an "A" in chem and a "B" in micro (it was one point away from an "A", ugghhh). Just go to class and pay attention and study. You will be fine! You can do it!
    Last edit by radicalsenseofhope on Sep 30, '12
  10. Visit  pre-nurseshan profile page
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    RSOH - I don't have too much to add to what these others said, but just wanted to let you know I am in a very similar situation to you - 36, 2 hs'd kiddos, husband home more often than not, looking to be a NP when all is said and done. Good luck to both of us!
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    Quote from pre-pre-nurseshan
    RSOH - I don't have too much to add to what these others said, but just wanted to let you know I am in a very similar situation to you - 36, 2 hs'd kiddos, husband home more often than not, looking to be a NP when all is said and done. Good luck to both of us!
    Awesome! Thanks for chiming in. Nice to know I'm not alone in my situation. :-)
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    Quote from PurplePRN
    I'm older than you.............and I'm just finishing up my prereqs and applied to start nursing school in January. The kids will be gone living their own lives one day. And we'll need someone to nurture. Why not the sick? Yes, it will be hard. But so rewarding too. I'm sorry I don't have more time to post. I have to get back to studying A&P.

    I think you should do it! My husband isn't encouraging either. I won't get into it, but his reasons are purely selfish and in HIS best interest, not mine. Plus, having that extra income when our children are starting their adult lives will be nice. They'll have college, new homes, new babies..........so much they will need help with.

    Go for it!
    Oh yeah, forgot to mention. I'm not sure exactly where my husband's motivation behind discouraging me comes from. Part of it could be selfish reasons. It will require a ton of work for him to step up to if I decide to do this. He has discouraged me every single time the nursing bug has hit me, for over 10 years now. I've always just played into the guilt of not being a full time mom anymore if I went back to pursuing nursing. It is so easy to feel guilty about our choices as a mom, LOL.
    Last edit by radicalsenseofhope on Sep 30, '12
  13. Visit  roseonye profile page
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    you have to do what make YOU happy. 37 is not old and your kids are old enough to understand that mommy need to get her education. if you dont go you may regret it down the road when you are in your 50s and 60s and asking what if. you can do it. when i went back to school my baby was 3months old. she is 17months now and i am happy i did. your husband will understand and will support you at the end. Good luck

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