I'm having a major crisis (at least it feels that way...). I submitted my application for an accelerated nursing program before the Nov. 1 deadline. I had all my rec's lined up long before that. Two of my recommenders submitted their rec's well before the deadline, but the third one lagged. I sent her polite reminders asking if she needed anything from me, but she kept saying she would take care of it ASAP. Days before the application was due, I contacted her again. This time, she said she had already submitted it online. My online account said she hadn't, so I contacted the school the next day to get their advice. They said she should email or fax it ASAP (by this time, it was past the application due date). So I called my recommender and asked if she would be able to do either of those, and she said it wouldn't be a problem. I followed up with her the day after, and she said she'd faxed AND emailed it. (Sidenote: she lives across the country from me and my school of choice.)
So then I had to wait a few more days for the school to send out automated emails letting applicants know if they were missing any materials (the Admission department said they were not taking calls at this time). I got the email two days ago, and it said they did NOT have her recommendation. I've been texting/calling/emailing her since and she has not answered at all.
The Admission department told me to tell her to send it ASAP, or to look in to asking another recommender.
My question is, how do I go about asking someone for a recommendation when it's so last minute? I don't want to make it sound like they are my back-up or anything.
Any input would be greatly appreciated!