Quote from JoJo_Ga_Girl
P.S. I cooled off about losing my perfect GPA when my gifted 1st grader came home crying because she got a B on a math test. She's lucky I didn't ground her for a week for being such a slacker!
I think this is a good example to use to discuss this topic. When we see someone else (in a situtuation sufficiently different to allow us to separate ourselves from it), have a similar obsession with grades, it's easier to see that such an obsession is not healthy.
Over my many years as a student, I have learned to focus more on my learning and growth instead of my grades. When I was young, I focused more on my grades and other people's judgment of my work. But I have learned through experience that it is the learning and growth that is most important.
I often learn the most in classes that are more demanding and in which I am more likely to not get an A in everything.
It's easy to get an A in an easy course -- and that A doesn't mean much. But a course that really challenges my thinking and forces me to change the way I think about something or approach something is one that will teach me more -- but I will be more likely to get a few grades that aren't A's along the way.
For example, in my PhD program, I wrote only 1 paper that did not get an A. I got a B+ on my Theory Development paper -- but my struggles with that paper lead me to ask questions that eventually became the focus of my doctoral dissertation. Stumbling on that paper enabled me to find the weakness in my area of interest that needed to be addressed and was an invaluable learning experience along my path of inquiry. Had I gotten a A on that paper (and an A in the course instead of an A-), my thinking would not have had that stimulous to progress as it did.
Perhaps the OP should reflect upon WHY she did not get an A in chemistry and use the knowledge gained by that reflection to learn and grow instead of being upset by it. See it as a postive learning experience (which is what education is supposed to be about) instead of as a totally negative thing.
If you always get an A ...you are not being challenged enough and not learning as much as you should be learning.