My transfer nurse advisor says I won't make it !

  1. Hello everyone , I came to America when I was just 7 years old ! Anyway ever since I was a little girl I always knew I wanted to do something in the medical field . No seriously I used to be the type to give shots to my " patients " A.K.A bears to make them feel better . Now I am a 19F in college about to transfer to a University from community college. Anyway yesterday I talked to my UB ( university at buffalo) advisor and she was so discouraging ! I am such a hard worker I've never wanted to be a neonatal nurse so bad in my life . She was basically trying to put me down asking me if nursing is what I wanted to do ... that I should think about which major to switch too . Never had I ever had someone to value my worth and question my career choices. Saying that out of all the classes i took the one C that I ever gained otherwise I get A's and B+ that i have to be sure. Anyway fact of the matter is can anyone give me advice of what to do when I apply for the nursing program over there ? And how to find a senior nursing mentor ? After all I'll be a junior once I get over there . And just what to expect I know it won't be easy believe me that I'm already experiencing the struggles throughout the courses I'm currently taking . Thank you so much .
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  4. by   caliotter3
    Do what you want to do in school. Don't let someone who really has no vested interest in your success determine your future. You are in charge of you.
  5. by   Horseshoe
    I would advise you against putting details in your posts which could make you identifiable, just as a general precaution.

    Take it one step at a time. Get accepted into nursing school. Study hard, let the little stuff roll off of your shoulders, learn from your mistakes.

    As far as finding a "senior mentor": Unless the school has a specific mentoring program, that might be difficult. Seniors are typically buried in their classes and clinicals. They may not have the time or desire to mentor.
  6. by   chichimel
    Thank you so much .
  7. by   chichimel
    You are absolutely correct I will remove that information.
  8. by   CrunchRN
    You can do it. Just prove her wrong. You don't have to be brilliant. Just work hard
  9. by   puravidaLV
    Here is the reality: people that run nursing schools are the least supportive people in the know.
    Here is the other reality: People who teach nursing school you're going to find a few that will want you to succeed.
    Here is some more reality: its pretty much all a freaking joke and now I will say why...

    Ok so I'm a second degree nurse, took till I was 30+ to say hey I like to wipe peoples buts and get paid for it. But in the first degree I did something called greek life. Were people attempt to be BAMF and in reality they're not. After a while you get to notice who and what is full of well fecal matter and those that will point out reality. Most of it is fecal matter. In nursing we taught the idea of educating the patient, empowering the patient, but if you were to take some of...well .... majority of programs you would be right to question why does it seem like everyone is a jerk?

    Honestly I sat in the back got my A's, did all my projects within the first two weeks of school and coasted. If I could sum up my nursing school experience it was: "cut the (rhymes with dishes) and fix it with stiches". oh to be 19 and female...well 19...I'm a guy so never did the female thing, yet here it is nursing school is a bunch of fear.

    Youre going to leave there once you graduate and take a test that only a nurse two weeks out of school is going to know the answers; hopefuly. Half the teachers have no clue what they are doing and even more so on the advisors, and don't get me started on ATI/HESI. Advisors tell you one thing and wait you're two semesters past that class. Be smart. Read the student hand guide, guide yourself through the process, and rely on yourself. ...but above all else here is one tid-bit of advise....never get an education that is going to cost you 100k$.

    Here is another little nursing school rhyme "C's are degrees". No one ask when you get that shinny RN license (its not shinny and in most cases the only shinny thing your going to get is a pin from school that youre going to lose so don't spend the money on it) where you went. As long as you can tell a crappy situation, AdPIE (assess, diagnosis, plan, implement, and evaluate) your way out of situations, and know when to ask for help you'll be fine.

    I was just thrown two student nurses last week that verbalized every fear in the nursing handbook, yet when I sat them down out in the patient lounge and said "hit me with your worst fears" it came down to hear-say and things I remember being told in nursing school that were like Greek fairly tails that once someone stopped them from focusing on monster on the wall it was just a shadow of a tree.
    Last edit by puravidaLV on May 8 : Reason: I went to school to be a nurse not an english major.
  10. by   Mavrick
    Quote from puravidaLV
    Here is the reality: people that run nursing schools are the least supportive people in the know.
    Here is the other reality: People who teach nursing school you're going to find a few that will want you to succeed.
    Here is some more reality: its pretty much all a freaking joke and now I will say why...

    Ok so I'm a second degree nurse, took till I was 30+ to say hey I like to wipe peoples buts and get paid for it. But in the first degree I did something called greek life. Were people attempt to be BAMF and in reality they're not. After a while you get to notice who and what is full of well fecal matter and those that will point out reality. Most of it is fecal matter. In nursing we taught the idea of educating the patient, empowering the patient, but if you were to take some of...well .... majority of programs you would be right to question why does it seem like everyone is a jerk?

    Honestly I sat in the back got my A's, did all my projects within the first two weeks of school and coasted. If I could sum up my nursing school experience it was: "cut the (rhymes with dishes) and fix it with stiches". oh to be 19 and female...well 19...I'm a guy so never did the female thing, yet here it is nursing school is a bunch of fear.

    Youre going to leave there once you graduate and take a test that only a nurse two weeks out of school is going to know the answers; hopefuly. Half the teachers have no clue what they are doing and even more so on the advisors, and don't get me started on ATI/HESI. Advisors tell you one thing and wait you're two semesters past that class. Be smart. Read the student hand guide, guide yourself through the process, and rely on yourself. ...but above all else here is one tid-bit of advise....never get an education that is going to cost you 100k$.

    Here is another little nursing school rhyme "C's are degrees". No one ask when you get that shinny RN license (its not shinny and in most cases the only shinny thing your going to get is a pin from school that youre going to lose so don't spend the money on it) where you went. As long as you can tell a crappy situation, AdPIE (assess, diagnosis, plan, implement, and evaluate) your way out of situations, and know when to ask for help you'll be fine.

    I was just thrown two student nurses last week that verbalized every fear in the nursing handbook, yet when I sat them down out in the patient lounge and said "hit me with your worst fears" it came down to hear-say and things I remember being told in nursing school that were like Greek fairly tails that once someone stopped them from focusing on monster on the wall it was just a shadow of a tree.
    (I'm a savant. I can't help it. I did manage to ignore the grammar mistakes).

    These are not English Major errors. These are simple spelling errors, simply corrected by paying attention to detail. Not such a bad quality in Nursing or anything else for that matter.

    I super-agree with the comment about not spending $100K on a (nursing) education.
  11. by   Mavrick
    Perhaps the struggling with your community college classes is what the adviser is seeing.
  12. by   AMR1
    Firstly, do not worry about a senor mentor. Seniors are way too busy to be mentoring. They got through it without mentors and so can you!

    Don't worry about what your advisor said. My advisor was not very encouraging to say the least. You can do this. You've worked hard and hard work will pay off. Polish your application--have someone proofread your resume/essay. I wish you the very best.
  13. by   nancy welch
    Amen to that!!!
  14. by   nancy welch
    To be honest the schools really do not care if you pass or fail, now maybe some of the Nursing instructors will, but they have been Nurses too, they can sit back after the first few weeks of school and tell you who wants to really be a nurse because they care and who wants to be a nurse for the paycheck..After I got out and got working on the floor I could tell too, but it did not matter to me who went to school for what reason as long as my patients were taken care of properly. The schools are a business, I have seen schools try to get people to not go into nursing , and to just go for Medical Assisting or something else because they needed to fill a head count.They are a business so it is all about $$ to them, and IF you have to repeat a class to them so what it will be more money for them..PS I gave my Teddy Bears shots too..lol.. Nursing school is hard no ands if or buts about it..but do not allow anybody to kick you down. Maybe after a while you will find out you do not have it in you at this time for whatever reason to be a RN, Then go to school to be a LPN,if you want then grab up your RN later on, Your job and pay will be different, but you will still be a Nurse, we are all Nurses regardless of what letters we have after our names. Many times on the job I said boy I wish I was a LPN instead of having all this pressure..But see this should be your decision, not any office person at a school..I was a teenage mother still in High school back in 1974, being pregnant and in school was frowned upon back then and I remember my school advisor telling me I would never amount to anything, I proved her very wrong.She was the very person that I thought of at my RN pinning ceremony. Talk about holding a grudge.
    Last edit by nancy welch on May 11 : Reason: spelling error
  15. by   IndyEMS
    There are way too many personal details in here. I would say to try anyways!

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