I have been a stay at home mom for the past two years and I finally got accepted into a nursing program for this coming Fall 2013 after 3+ years of application cycles. The school is two hours away from home. I have two kids (2 yr and 4 months). I have a science degree in Biochemistry and Molecular Biology. Prior to being a stay at home mom, I was a pharmaceutical QA lab analyst for 6 years. But in my heart I always knew I wanted to become a nurse.
My husband knows it is my goal/dream to become a nurse (and it's truly not because of the money)but he is very unhappy about me going through the program because it means we will be separated as a family unit. We would only be able to see each other on the weekends and even then I would probably be so busy with school that even weekends will be dedicated for school. He wants me to apply to other schools in our area, which I have been but I never got accepted. I finally get accepted into a school 2 hours away and I am so heartbroken that he is not supporting me in my goal. He says I would be selfish neglecting my family and thinking only about myself and my own goals. We are financially stable, if my goal to become a nurse is to make more money, then my income is not needed so I shouldn't make decisions that could potentially break up our family. I feel absolutely terrible. =(
Apr 12, '13
by Stephalump, RN
Sometimes being a parent isn't all about you.
Actually, most of the time it isn't about you
In my opinion, you've gotten your "chance" to pursue your dreams, evidenced by the fact that you have previous degrees. While it's sad that maybe it wasn't your super super ultimate dream, it's not really a sad tale of whoa of an uneducated woman who just wants to educated herself. It's a tale of someone who wants to be a nurse.
Which is cool. That's why we're all here. But you have a FOUR MONTH OLD. Be a patent and a wife. It's what you signed up to do. Work on getting into programs closer to you. I know you have been, but nursing school hasn't disappeared and it'll probably still be here even if it takes you another 3 years.
And really, I don't know why anyone would be "in it for the money." There isn't much money there, compared to other things you could do with degrees.
Last edit by Stephalump on Apr 12, '13
Yes, nursing school will always be there. But he has also said at some point in time (I guess age wise) if I keep trying and don't get in, I need to give it up and move on. From his perspective, I'm into my 30's and time is not on my side. Thank you all for your honest opinions, I appreciate it.
Last edit by fbanh on Apr 12, '13
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