I have to choose between being a nurse or mother! - page 2

I was diagnosed with pcos in feb. 2011, moved here to texas. And was diagnosed with high bp, pcos, diabetes type 1, and just found out i may have fibroids also(family history of it) in september 2012. My OB told me that if either... Read More

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    Go to nursing school. Two children are enough. Really. You might not think so now, but they are more demanding, more financial burden, and require more supervision to stay on the right track as they get older and peer pressure starts to influence them more than parents do. My mother had three children and worked full time. She definitely did the "second shift" thing all her life, running on only 5-6 hourse sleep at most, every night, for years. My sister has three kids, and her husband lost his job, cashed out and spent his retirement, is now morbidly obese, and he refuses to go back to work. He also does not do any of the household scutwork, ever. they have 3 kids in college now, and two mortgages she is paying on, their vehicles are rebuilt wrecks that my nephew bought at scrap yards and put back together, and my sister works a fulltime regular job as RN plus all the per-diem work she can get, and now all the weekend private-duty work she can get. She is the sole support of her family. Now, think about how much lighter her burden would be if she had stopped at 2 kids: One is 25 and almost out on his own, has skills to support himself if he needs to, and one that's 22 and almost done with college now.

    I have no kids, because I wasn't motivated when I was younger and then couldn't have any later. I am perfectly happy with that, LoL. But long before that, I took a good look at Mom and Sis and their grueling lives, and their husbands that didn't help much, and I said that I'm definitely going to be a None-To-One-And-Done kind of gal.
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    You need to get a second opinion pronto. I have PCOS and I feel your pain. I have to have infertility meds to get pregnant as well. We have 4 children. I will tell you that it is completey doable to have children and do nursing school at the same time.
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    Quote from Streamline2010
    Go to nursing school. Two children are enough. Really. You might not think so now, but they are more demanding, more financial burden, and require more supervision to stay on the right track as they get older and peer pressure starts ...al.
    As mom to 3 going thru a divorce, can I double like this comment!!!! if its meant to be, you will have chance to have more kids later. Don't stop your education to have kids with a man you already make more money than. When I was your age(8 years ago) I wouldn't have taken my own advice, but I plead with you to consider what those of us who have BTDT are saying!!
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    Quote from vintagemother
    As mom to 3 going thru a divorce, can I double like this comment!!!! if its meant to be, you will have chance to have more kids later. Don't stop your education to have kids with a man you already make more money than. When I was your age(8 years ago) I wouldn't have taken my own advice, but I plead with you to consider what those of us who have BTDT are saying!!
    I'm with these people. I'm so sorry that you are going through this and having to deal with it. I come from a large family and we (the kids) never had new clothes, couldn't do extra curricular activities, and were lucky if we got to split Chinese takeout. My parents made good money; but, because there were so many of use, basic living expenses came first.

    I am now the same age as you (I turn 25 in jan) and my husband and I have two kids. He got neutered because we decided we wanted to make sure we could always take care of the kids we have. Do I want more kids? I would love to have more! Do I need more kids? No, I satisfied with the two we have and I want to make sure they can participate in activities. Had my husband and I been more responsible and went to college, got married, then have kids instead of the exact opposite, we would probably of had more kids. However, we want to make sure we can always afford our family. He is in the military and I am in nursing school. Who knows, maybe 10 years from now we will adopt.

    Anyways, I think you should get a second opinion and don't have a baby just because this is your "last chance" to ever have another one. You can always adopt a baby once your career is stabilized.
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    Why do you need a hystrectomy? Are you in pain?

    I say do NS and then adopt later....there are soooo many children who need good homes.

    ~K
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    Do you really want/need a third child? You've said your dh hasn't grown up yet.....?

    You can go to nursing school to become a nurse and support your two daughters very nicely on a nurses salary.

    If it were me, I'd go to nursing school. You're choice in the end.


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