are very in tune with matching students based on their personalities, and some even send out a questionaire.
A phone call to the student housing association, informing then that it is "extremely important" to you that you get with a student that also puts academics first, will make your life much easier.
Many times, it has to do with expectations. I would also suggest, on your first night together, that you two go out to dinner, get to know each other, and set out some expectations for each of you...ask how early the other needs to get to bed...are they messy or a neat freak? Do they have tons of friends at the college or do they not know much of anyone there?
I think that when young people go to college and get their first dorm room, they are more worried by making friends with the roommate and being overly nice than really talking about what can cause fights in the future.
There are a few things that usually cause a ton of fights between roommates:
1. Agree to not swap clothes...no matter how cute the other's wardrobe is.
2. Agree to keep food separate....this can be a huge expense for the other.
3. Never swap money back and forth with each other.
4. Make a rule not to have friends over the night before an exam....keep a calender so both of you can post your exam schedules.
Some universities have different visitation schedules and this can vary by different dorms. The ones with the MOST restrictions will be avoided by the partyers.
Another tip: Any, truly sentimental jewelry that is irreplaceable...never take this to school with you. Leave it at home. Any other "good" jewelry that you have...never tell your roommate how much you have...unpack it in private and put it in a box at the bottom of a drawer...never let your roommate seek you access it...they generally won't steal what they don't know exists.
I wish you luck!