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Prenursing student here starting to take my prereq this Jan and I am so happy that I changed my major. I am A also 25 years old and married for 3 years so the itch of having children started happening. My husband and I have decided to wait to have children until after school. Michael (husband) is working on his AS in computer and I of course a AS nursing but it looks like it will be another 4 to 5 years before I am finish. I don't know how to deal with it all of my coworks/friends that are my age are starting to have their families. All this because I so badly want to become a nurse and having children right now will make things a lot more difficult. I am going to wait to have children later but are their people in the same boat as I and how do you deal with it?
First of all, you're only 25 years old. You have many years of healthy childbearing in front of you.
If both you and your husband are not working, you should not have children since you won't have a way to support them. If I were you, I would wait until at least one of you is in gainful, full-time employment WITH HEALTH BENEFITS.
I would recommend that you finish school first, then have children. We're not going to be doing it that way, but I can't put off having kids until after school; I'm too old. You're not. I'd wait; who cares what your friends are doing? Do you have to have kids just because they're having kids? What works for them may not work for you, and you may regret having kids now because it will just make school that much more difficult.
I understand the itch, believe me; but you need to put your kids' needs ahead of your own, and you are in a position to finish school before you have children. If I were 25 instead of 31, I'd wait too.