Delaying Children until after nursing school. - page 3

HI, Prenursing student here starting to take my prereq this Jan and I am so happy that I changed my major. I am A also 25 years old and married for 3 years so the itch of having children started... Read More

  1. by   stpauligirl
    Quote from mixy
    I'm 34 and starting nursing school in January. My husband and I are waiting until after I graduate to start having more children. We have a 15 year old (soon to be 16.. yikes! from my previous relationship) but want more definitely want more children. I think we are actually going to wait until I finish grad school, so I'll probably be 41 or so before we have a baby! I am fine to wait, especially because I am healthy and have no misconceptions about how HARD it is to raise a child.
    Best wishes in whatever you decide!
    My son was 14 (he was also from a previous relationship) when his brother was born. I was 38, everything was perfectly fine. The baby was very healthy.
  2. by   mixyRN
    Quote from stpauligirl
    My son was 14 (he was also from a previous relationship) when his brother was born. I was 38, everything was perfectly fine. The baby was very healthy.
    This is great to hear! I know there is a lot of concern about AMA (Advanced maternal age, 35+) these days but I am very healthy and I have faith that if it is in God's plan, we will have more healthy children at any age. I am not naive about the increase in risks, but I also know that staying healthy, exercising and good nutrition throughout a lifetime are good for fertility.
  3. by   DesertRain
    Quote from mixy
    This is great to hear! I know there is a lot of concern about AMA (Advanced maternal age, 35+) these days but I am very healthy and I have faith that if it is in God's plan, we will have more healthy children at any age. I am not naive about the increase in risks, but I also know that staying healthy, exercising and good nutrition throughout a lifetime are good for fertility.
    Just a bit of an FYI to support this, my grandmother was 42 when she started having children. She had 5 within 7 years and lived until she was 97! And that was back in the 40's! As a young child I don't remember her being any older or different as an AMA grandmother!
  4. by   DesertRain
    Quote from stpauligirl
    Don't beat yourself up, you love your children it's obvious from your post.
    It's hard to be a woman, find the right balance and to make it just and right for everybody and everything. It's a very common dilemma, and I could talk about it forever.
    Be kind to yourself, you are doing the best you can.
    Thank you, it's always nice to hear words of encouragement!
  5. by   catzy5
    Quote from stpauligirl
    There is hope, yours is a girl.....mine is a very stubborn boy beagle
    Mine was the wiggliest little puppy I ever had, he was like a jello jiggler in my hand. I could share endless funny stories.
    Beagles are very sweet dogs, super tolerant of children. and those eyes......and ears......you just can't stay mad at them for more than a few seconds. My beagle puts himself in "time out" when I give him a certain look or yell at him, it's hilarious.
    Good luck with the puppy and I hope you will enjoy her.

    oh but the noise does yours make that howeling noise? I used to think they were so adorable till I met a couple at the dog park that make that noise!

    I am just kidding they are cute.

    I have a german shepherd he does require more work but its because I want too he his my best friend and escape we are going to start donig obedience trials in the spring. Just one more thing to keep me busy hehehe.
  6. by   stpauligirl
    Quote from catzy5
    oh but the noise does yours make that howeling noise? I used to think they were so adorable till I met a couple at the dog park that make that noise!

    I am just kidding they are cute.

    I have a german shepherd he does require more work but its because I want too he his my best friend and escape we are going to start donig obedience trials in the spring. Just one more thing to keep me busy hehehe.
    Yes, he makes that howling sound when on "the trail" you should see his fur raise up on his back and his puffed up tail when he is on to something. He is a very good hunter.
    When his nose hits the ground, his brain shuts off!!!!! He will not listen to his name but snort loudly and howl and persue whatever
    Definitely get a beagle microchipped, too many get lost while in hunting mode.
    Have fun training your dog !

    BTW got both dogs groomed for X-Mas today but the beagle is of course rooting around in the back yard already getting dirty again LOL
  7. by   carolinapooh
    Good heavens - I'm 33, in an accelerated program, married seven years - and I'm not having kids for AT LEAST another three years. I deal with it by realizing I am not dead yet , I was born when my own mother was 39 and both she and I are just fine, my sister had her first kid at 36, and by knowing that what everyone else may or may not be doing just might not be right for me right now - no matter HOW much I can feel my heart sink when I hear so-and-so is pregnant and I find myself a shower attendant AGAIN instead of the honoree. I'll get there - and if I can't at some point, then I wasn't meant to, because the Good Lord has had many many many chances to make an accident happen in seven years!

    You have PLEEENNNNTTTTYYYY of time....you can't gauge what you think you should be doing by what everyone else is doing. You are eight years younger than I - I WISH I'd known I wanted to do this eight years ago. I ENVY you the time you have ahead of you - and I'm only THIRTY-THREE years old.

    You're fine. You have to just know in your heart that what you're doing is right for the two of you right at this second, and I think you already know that. You are just fine. :spin:


    Quote from mydee
    HI,
    Prenursing student here starting to take my prereq this Jan and I am so happy that I changed my major. I am A also 25 years old and married for 3 years so the itch of having children started happening. My husband and I have decided to wait to have children until after school. Michael (husband) is working on his AS in computer and I of course a AS nursing but it looks like it will be another 4 to 5 years before I am finish. I don't know how to deal with it all of my coworks/friends that are my age are starting to have their families. All this because I so badly want to become a nurse and having children right now will make things a lot more difficult. I am going to wait to have children later but are their people in the same boat as I and how do you deal with it?
  8. by   catzy5
    Quote from stpauligirl
    Yes, he makes that howling sound when on "the trail" you should see his fur raise up on his back and his puffed up tail when he is on to something. He is a very good hunter.
    When his nose hits the ground, his brain shuts off!!!!! He will not listen to his name but snort loudly and howl and persue whatever
    Definitely get a beagle microchipped, too many get lost while in hunting mode.
    Have fun training your dog !

    BTW got both dogs groomed for X-Mas today but the beagle is of course rooting around in the back yard already getting dirty again LOL

    oh ya they are runners I hear ya on that my neighbor has one can't ever take it off leash. My dog follows me everywhere when he gets out front by accident he just sits and waits for me I guess he knows a good thing when he has it. He is a rescue dog so probably remembers his homeless days hehehe.

    LOL about the grooming them and getting dirty. my german shepherd is white the 2nd I bath him he is out in the mud. Thankfully his coat is pretty cool that dirt just flakes off, but when we go play he immidietely rolls in the mud and gets black.
  9. by   stpauligirl
    Quote from catzy5
    oh ya they are runners I hear ya on that my neighbor has one can't ever take it off leash. My dog follows me everywhere when he gets out front by accident he just sits and waits for me I guess he knows a good thing when he has it. He is a rescue dog so probably remembers his homeless days hehehe.

    LOL about the grooming them and getting dirty. my german shepherd is white the 2nd I bath him he is out in the mud. Thankfully his coat is pretty cool that dirt just flakes off, but when we go play he immidietely rolls in the mud and gets black.
    My other dog doesn't run either, he listens pretty well. He just doesn't get along with other furries too well and barks up a storm if he sees other dogs. He wiggled himself out of his collar before and launched an attack on some poor doggie He gets so excited that he passed out on me twice on a walk, can you imagine ?!?! He is also a rescue and has serious mental issues We keep him in our yard, no more walking.
    Speaking of dogs.....they are truly worse than kids....I just cleaned up a beagle pee-pee puddle in my kitchen. It's cold outside and I swear that dog will not call to be let out but rather pee on the floor in bad weather. Once again he is the luckiest dog in teh entire nation that he has such a patient momma.... his cute eyes and long ears saved him once more. I was wondering why he was lalying so quietly in his "time-out" station. LOL
    You truly have to love them.......
    Last edit by stpauligirl on Dec 21, '06
  10. by   para
    I am in the same boat. I have been married 4 years now. I am 26 years old and my husband is 29.We are waiting till I finish school to start our family. We talk about having kids a lot.We both know we do not want to miss out on a family. My husband has had some health problems and now I am trying to get into school. It is not the right time to also get pregnant. We both know this.First we do not want to use child care and second the stress of school, having a baby etc. is not good for anyone. Lucky my husband has a good job with good benefits and we have a home based business as well to pay the bills.But we would like an extra income and savings before we have kids. We just bought a condo last year. So we are making steps to start a family, but it will probably we a few years before we try. In an ideal world I would like to have my first child around 29 and my second and final child a few years later.Good luck and don't worry you are making a good decision to wait.
  11. by   dansamy
    Get at least your ASN/ADN (whichever your school likes to call it!) before you have children. I have 3 small children and it was difficult getting through nursing school.
  12. by   jov
    Quote from mixy
    I also know that staying healthy, exercising and good nutrition throughout a lifetime are good for fertility.
    I am not so sure. Remember that 1 out of 6 couples goes through some sort of infertility. All your good nutrition, exercising, etc. won't be but a drop in the bucket if your husband has a low sperm count or if you have an auto-immune problem, blocked fallopian tubes, etc.
    While I don't recommend going to nursing school with infants/small children, I also will tell y'all it took us 11 years to have our first one. Fortunately we were able to go to the best infertility specialists in Chicago AND our insurance covered it (15 years ago our bill for conceiving child #1 was $30,000)...
    one needs to be very careful about delaying, delaying, delaying until all circumstances are perfect to have Baby.

    With all respect, my personal opinion is it is naive to think you can wait to have kids until you're 41 and all will be well as long as you eat your veggies and walk on the treadmill. JMO
  13. by   MB37
    I know I would be nervous about waiting if I was 10 years older, but assuming I get accepted in March I'll be 29 when I graduate. DH is 10 years older than me, but I know that his age is less important than mine. It's really for his sake that we want to start as soon as we can though, especially if we have more than one. He wants to be involved in their sports and everything else. A couple we're friends with is going through the in vitro crap right now...for the third time...she's at 11 weeks right now, so hopefully this one takes. It's weird how the people you think would make the world's best parents are unable to conceive, yet so many people get pregnant that don't want or aren't ready to support children. We are going to wait until I get through my accelerated BSN (Aug 09) and maybe even start trying a few months before graduation - who knows how long it will take. Try to have 2 in 2-3 years, then once they are both in school, I can maybe go back and work on a masters. To the OP, at 25, you're younger than most of us who are responding. You have nothing to worry about. Don't wait forever, b/c the time will never be "perfect," but if you're already in school you should try to finish first.

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