Be careful not to let people talk you out of your career ambitions

Nursing Students Pre-Nursing

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I just wanted to share a quick story. My mom checked into the emergency room on 1/13/13 due to complications stemming from Chemo and Lung Cancer. She passed away three days later in the ICU. The 14th was the first day of our semester at school. Needless to say, I was spending a great deal of time at the hospital with mom. I brought my A&P book with me to read during the times she was sleeping. An older Nurse walked in one day and asked me why I was taking A&P. I say older, she was actually not much older than I was and I am 46. I told her my ambitions and she scoffed at the notion. She painted me a very bleak picture of Nursing and suggested I shouldn't waste my time. I have to tell you, with my mom laying there on her death bed and me falling behind right out of the gate, I seriously considered dropping the class. I suppose the reason I didn't was for two reasons, one.... I really appreciated watching the care and attention the Nurses gave my mom, and secondly, I knew my mom would be disappointed if I quit. After she passed and I found myself struggling, I could hear her telling me to "get my butt in gear and don't quit". I did struggle with catching up but ended up with an "A" in the class. I dedicate that "A" to my mom. Anyhow, back to the point I wanted to make. There are going to be obstacles, nay Sayers, people telling you to give up, doors not opening that should, family matters, and basic life issues to cope with. It is easy to quit... but as my old ball coach used to say "Quitters never win and winners never quit". If its within you to become a Nurse, don't let anyone or circumstance steal your dream.

The way I see it, Medicine is the one job that remains stable and there will always be a demand for it.... It is also a position that offers promotion and is available all over the country. Honestly, I make six figures in my current position, and made about 30K more than my wife did this year. She has been a RN at the same hospital for 27 years. I'm not taking classes now to earn higher wages. With all the craziness in the job market, and all the people who have lost their jobs over the past few years because of the economy, plus new rules under the AHCA, I think it is a no brainier, the medical field is the place to be. Also, as I posted above, just watching the care given to my mom as she was in and out of the hospital for 5 years battling cancer, I grew to respect what Nurses do even more. Honestly, I guess I never paid attention to exactly how instrumental the RNs role was in ensuring the overall care and comfort of their patients. That may seem strange, having been married to a RN for 23 years and dating her for six years before that. However, I have been going to my same job for the past 25 years and my wife and I really don't talk much about work at home. We prefer to leave work at the door when we leave to come home. My wife is now back in school to become a Nurse Practitioner, and my youngest daughter is looking foreword to becoming a Doctor. She's only 11 now, but she reads everything she can now about science and medicine. I hope her passion does not subside and she goes into the medical field. I know I've been pre-paying for her education since her birth :-) Anyhow, it's good to hear from people on these boards. There are a lot of inspirational stories being shared by many people, and that is important when you hit a rough patch along the way. Don't let anyone talk you out of becoming whatever you aspire to be!

...There is nothing anyone can say to me to change my mind about my future career. So suck it naysayers.

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Haha, I lol'd.

And to DadStudent; sorry to hear about your mom and the "nurse" who peed in your wheaties. Some people should find a job that doesn't involve interacting with the public.

Thanks for this!

I just finished my first term of prerequisites (chem and nutrition), and will be taking bio/ochem in the fall. I work full time in a very hectic and demanding job, so I probably won't take classes winter and spring.

I'm looking at a significant investment of time and money, as I want to transition from my MSW to psychMH NP who can work with youth (which is now a DNP where I live and I'd prefer not to move).

So... you know... good to remember that there will be nay-sayers who say nay. And to them, I stick my thumbs in my ears, waggle my fingers, and blow raspberries! :)

I've always wanted to be a nurse. My mother talked me out of it when I went to college. She HAD to be a LPN in her day and actually wanted to go to art school. She didn't really like being a nurse but did the best job she could. I dropped out of college dissatisfied with being there, joined the Navy and got married. Fast foward to getting laid off from Kodak after 15 years. I went to LPN school at 42 and haven't looked back. My mom told me that she should have never talked me out of being a nurse. She knows that it was what I was born to be. I am now 50 and will finish up my BSN by next year. I work as a supervisor in LTC. I have worked in LTC and the hospital. I have never once regretted my decision to become a nurse. I agree, don't let anyone talk you out of being a nurse or any other goal that you know is meant for you.

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Your Father-in-law's statement is so bizarre I would like to know his thinking. Is he saying this because his son is working 75 hrs a week to pay all the bills plus put you through school? Is he realistic enough to know your husband cannot do this for the next 4 years? Does he have serious doubts you will be successful in nursing school? I would really like to know why he feels the way he does. I have been trying my best to get my daughter-in-law off her butt and back in school because I see how hard my son has to work to support their family.

This is a great post!

My father-in-law is the kind of guy that lives in the here and now... which is nice and all but he has a really hard time understanding why I'm "wasting" so much time in school. We had a conversation a few weeks back about the fact that I still have 4 years left before I graduate. I made a conscious decision to split my pre-reqs into two years so I can put as much time and effort as possible into the classes I take to get the best grade I can before applying to the nursing program. He said "You need to look at how much money you are going to put into your education and what the return on your investment is going to be." To be honest, I'm going to a state university and my tuition is really not bad at all. My husband and I are able to pay for it in cash each semester, so I have no loans and no post-college debt. So I will make back what I put into school in my first year working as an RN 3 times over. He told me I'd be better off working for $10 an hour and quitting school so I can start making money now instead of having to wait until I graduate. SERIOUSLY dude?! Cause that makes a TON of sense. Be stuck just like you... No thanks.

Well quite frankly, I think he's jealous. He never did anything significant with his life. He is in a dead end job and has been in the same position for the past 15 years with no chance of advancement.

I'm finishing my pre-req's and then going for my BSN so I have options in the future. The way I look at it is that I am still young(ish) and I'm doing this to give me and my family a better life in the future. And if he can't understand that then I feel sorry for him.

There is nothing anyone can say to me to change my mind about my future career. So suck it naysayers.

Specializes in N/A.

I wonder why is it that some people within the nursing field recommend not becoming a nurse? The only explanations I could think of would be nurses who never really wanted to become a nurse to begin with OR became a nurse for the wrong reasons.

Either way, this was a great post. I had someone in my life tell me a really good quote that I'd certainly use if I were to experience anything similar to the OP.

"If nothing good lasts forever, then that must mean nothing bad lasts forever, either."

I think the only naysayer I ran across was a random professor at my college that I did not know nor have as a professor in any class. He saw me carrying my A&P textbook and asked if I were a Pre-Nursing student, and then wondered why I wasn't going into medical.

I'm not sure if it was because I was a guy or if it was because he thought I'd do better as a Pre-Med student, but either way, I'm proud to be a Pre-Nursing student!

Your Father-in-law's statement is so bizarre I would like to know his thinking. Is he saying this because his son is working 75 hrs a week to pay all the bills plus put you through school? Is he realistic enough to know your husband cannot do this for the next 4 years? Does he have serious doubts you will be successful in nursing school? I would really like to know why he feels the way he does. I have been trying my best to get my daughter-in-law off her butt and back in school because I see how hard my son has to work to support their family.

He puts a monetary value on his time with everything he does. For example, he'd rather get take out from a steakhouse for ribs because it's not worth his time to put them in the oven and wait for them to cook for a few hours. He thinks it would be more beneficial for me to work at a job paying next to nothing than it is for me to put 4 more years of my life into my education for a career that will last a lifetime. I think he looks at it that I'm losing money since I'm not working right now.

My husband has a city job and works a steady 40 hours a week and not that he makes "great money" but he makes enough for us to get by. Don't get me wrong, we sacrifice a lot to put me through school, but we both look at like it's investment for our family's future and will pay off in the long run.

One of his suggestions to start working asap was that I drop out of the program I'm in (I'm going for my BS) at a great state school to go to one of our local technical schools that offer an associates only program. Before I applied to school for my pre-reqs I did my research and those tech schools are 5x more expensive than the state school I go to and their credits are non-transferrable to any of the state schools. So if I did go there and then later on down the road decided that I wanted my BS I would have to start from square one. The whole idea makes no sense to me, pay more for less and not be able to move up if I choose to... unless I want to start over.

I would LOVE to know what his reasoning is for this... but he does a lot of things that I just don't understand. To me, he's kind of a schemer and he has all these grand ideas of how to get rich quick, which all fall apart. Like sell his payed off car and truck that are working perfectly fine, buy at least seven or eight thousand dollars worth of tools and car stuff to get into the business of buying junkers, flipping them, and then selling them for profit.. Guess how many cars he's worked on... none. And that's just one of his many get rich quick schemes that have fallen to the wayside.

Like I said in my original post, I think he's jealous. I have a plan and ambitions for my life and he's worked blue collar jobs his whole life and has nothing to show for it except for a mountain of debt.

I don't want that woman to be my nurse. Scary.

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