Anyone have an "unsupportive mate"? - page 3

Not tryin to ruffle any feathers... but does anyone have NO support? Am I overstepping? Tell me. My husband calls me fat (I'm 5'5" and 156 pounds with 5 kids)- says college is easy- he calls me... Read More

  1. by   tiffswan
    My hubby has made the comment that if I ever get into nursing school, and graduate, I will leave him. He also thinks nursing school is a piece of cake.
  2. by   Jules A
    Quote from jov
    hmmm... he can't even help out by packing HIS OWN lunch?

    honey.
    don't pack his lunch.
    don't get his coffee ready for the morning.
    don't wash his thermos.

    he is a big boy now and he will either go hungry at noon and drink from a stale ol' thermos or he will figure it out without your guidance.

    Now go back to studying...
    I'll second that!
  3. by   Pompom
    Yes, and I divorced him one month after graduating. It was the best move I ever did. His lack of support only made me more determined to graduate. His constant put downs were his obvious jealously over my success.
  4. by   mvanz9999
    Yes I have been through that (and yes, men have their share of troubles). I divorced her 3 years ago.

    No, it wasn't easy financially or otherwise. But staying in that wasn't worth my sanity or anything else in the world. That's the exact reason it's taken 7 years to pursue nursing.

    Now I'm starting over with a new woman that is the exact inverse of the other one. She's at my side with 100% support.
  5. by   AnnieOaklyRN
    You need to dump this looser by the sounds of things. Verbal abuse only leads to physical abuse, which can obviously lead to serious injury!

    swtooth
  6. by   hairtocare
    Quote from jov
    hmmm... he can't even help out by packing HIS OWN lunch?

    honey.
    don't pack his lunch.
    don't get his coffee ready for the morning.
    don't wash his thermos.

    he is a big boy now and he will either go hungry at noon and drink from a stale ol' thermos or he will figure it out without your guidance.

    Now go back to studying...


    How true, how true! I guess my Mom washed over onto me. She always had my step-dad's lunch packed, dinner made, laundry done. I do the same thing (not so much dinner all the time), but the difference is, I work and go to school and she was a stay at home Mom and wife. Don't get me wrong, she probably worked harder then than I do now. Staying home and raising kids 24/7 is NOT my idea of easy! But for some reason I feel I'm not doing my "job" if I don't get it ALL done. Crazy, I know, but there it is. I try to reason with myself, I tell myself the same things as you said, but down deep that's how I feel. I guess that's why I get pi**ed, the internal conflict, lol.......
  7. by   hairtocare
    By the way, when I came home tonight, he had his lunc packed, thermos washed, and coffee ready for the morning. lol....... I bet he read my post, I did accidentally for get and leave it minimized on the computer.:roll
  8. by   FoxyRoxy21
    Quote from destined2bcrna
    i know i deserve better. already been to counseling and got all the handouts. so i'm not "putting up" with anything. but there is a monetary involvement for some of us. it's not so easy to just "pick up and move" because you're unhappy. i'm moving in 2 months on my own with no money, so i think i love myself a little bit. i was just trying to get a support system on here for those that weren't luckier than most to have a dh (dear hubby).
    you will always have support on here from all of us!!!!! don't ever forget that! it sounds like your husband is the insecure one in this relationship and that probably can explain a lot for his actions. you sound like you have your head on right, but staying with someone who treats you the way he does isn't healthy for you! i'm glad to hear that you are moving out on your own soon, and i wish you the best of luck with that! i'm sure you probably already know this......things will be tough at times, but it will so be worth it in the long run. to be on your own, away from the verbal abuse will only give you more energy mentally, emotionally, and physically. keep us posted on your journey!
  9. by   destined2bCRNA
    Thank you all! And hairtocare- I'm so happy that hubby has improved for the moment. Hope he keeps it up
  10. by   hairtocare
    Quote from destined2bCRNA
    Thank you all! And hairtocare- I'm so happy that hubby has improved for the moment. Hope he keeps it up

    Thanks girl! I was shocked. But, hey, stranger things have happened. You keep us posted, and if you need some encouragement, you just yell!!
  11. by   jov
    Quote from hairtocare
    By the way, when I came home tonight, he had his lunc packed, thermos washed, and coffee ready for the morning. lol....... I bet he read my post, I did accidentally for get and leave it minimized on the computer.:roll
    LOL LOL LOL you go girl

close