Hi everyone... This thread is totally non-practical, just to vent and get some moral support...
The story is this. I am graduating from a very good college (not Ivy, but still very good), with BA in chemistry and minor in biology. I am most likely going to Columbia's BSN/MSN track. I personally am very excited and happy about my choice. Here is the problem, however...
Most kids in my class are going to med schools
, dental schools, law schools, MBA programs, or simply get $5000 a month jobs at top firms right after graduation. And me... well, I am going to NURSING school
. Even though it may be an ivy school, still - nursing. Yeah, and don't forget the fact that few people actually know who NPs are. Every day someone in my school asks me - so why don't you go to med school? :angryfire And when I tell them that may be I DON'T WANT TO GO TO MED SCHOOL, they look at me in such a way... One girl, who's teaching a lab in my school and doing a PhD in Chemistry actually said to me - May be you don't want to be challenged...
Just today I talked to a girl who graduated couple of years ago, we took some classes together - and now she is a dentistry student. When she learned I have a little kid, she said - so that's why you don't go to med school... Again, as an obvious implication - you got yourself tied down, now you have to settle for whatever...
I would really appreciate some advice on how to handle this kind of questions and statements about me... They really bring my enthusiasm down, and make me think - may be I wasted my time and will not make my best... Eh, ok, I'm getting confused. Any moral support will be much appreciated!
Mar 6, '07
I realize that it puts you on the defensive time and time again. But please realize that no one can make you feel anything. Don't allow them to change how you feel about yourself.
You're among friends here. We know what an honorable and difficult undertaking nursing is. Here is where you'll find friends, understanding and support.
Just smile and answer honestly that you are choosing nursing and you're perfectly content with your decision. If someone is being rude, say something like "did you mean to sound so demeaning and arrogant?" Otherewise choose your battles and be proud of yourself. No one can make you feel like a failure. You might stand alone there and that's o.k. We're with you! Good luck and hang in there.
Last edit by Tweety on Mar 6, '07
Mar 6, '07
I'm with Tweety on this one...his concise answer pretty much sums up how I feel about your situation. If those around you are questioning your decision and implying that it is a situation you are settling for, it is the perfect time for you to highlight the positive reasons you are choosing
nursing. Not only will it educate them about the value of nurses (and NPs), which they clearly don't know enough about, it will also help reinforce the choice you are making to yourself.
I would totally agree that if they keep harboring this attitude towards your choice that it is time to step up and let them know they are being utterly rude. Good luck, keep your chin up for all of us!
One more thing...anyone who has the drive to get a BS in Chem with a minor in Bio is NOT
a failure. I wish I had that kind of motivation when I was in undergrad
Last edit by Asherah on Mar 6, '07
Mar 6, '07
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