What do you do when a child passes?

I work in a large PICU and I've seen a lot of children die. You just deal with it and go on basically. It's easier if it's a child I don't know but if it's a child I have been caring for it can be really hard honestly. There are some children I still think about, think about how their families are doing, etc. Sometimes it takes me a few days to process it all.

There are children who are ready and want to die, there are some things in life worse than death. I've know lots of children who when they died and I was happy for them and breathed a sigh of relief.

I've only participated in care where we lost the child one time.
I was a Tech & did compressions on the Code Team.
I went home that night, hugged my kids, and thanked God that they were still with me.
I don't think it's the kind of thing you ever get used to. At least, I hope to God it isn't.

How about we move this thread to the Pediatric Forum? It might be seen by more people who would be willing to share.

Its so hard watching young childrens lives been taken away by illnesses and it is really awful when we have to watch this happen when young children die and we find it hard some people find it comforting to get counselling this helps alot

I work in a PICU, as well, and unfortunately it is part of the job. It is very difficult, in my opinion, no matter what the situation. Sometimes it is what is best for the child, but it still is difficult when you have to wash them up and prepare them for the morgue. I think everyone has their own way of dealing with the situation. I am grateful I work with people that are like family because when something like that happens we are there to give a crying shoulder or to just be there for you while you take some time and regroup. You never get used to it, if you do there is something wrong. Every child and their family touch your heart. But like others have said you go home and tell your friends, family and children you love them. Good Luck in your new possition as an RN!

My experience with children's deaths comes from an ER and pre-hospital care. It is very hard and never gets easier (been doing this many years). However, I think its suposed to be hard to deal with so that we dont' take life lightly.

I am finishing my first year of nursing school and I have worked in health care as a tech for almost ten years, my back ground was always in new born, and then the past few years I have worked in out patient peds. I was really considering inpatient peds for when I graduate....but now that I have a toddler of my own I don't think that I can care for dying children....my passion and enjoyment comes from children....if I don't think I can do it, would you suggest that I work with adults? Or can you give some tips on how to cope?

I have been a pedi nurse for over 25 yrs; most of it with kids with developmental and medical issues. I have had many of my patients die; some i was closer to than others; but each one touched my heart... and each one was mourned. I dont think it got easier; even though for some it was a blessing and a relief for them. I did have to put it in perspective that these fragile children on earth are now laughing and running and playing in heaven.

It was a death of a child while I was working ER that caused me to leave nursing for a few months. Instead of venting or debriefing with my fellow staff members, I bottled everything up until it absolutely exploded. I simply couldn't go into work anymore. I didn't sleep at night. Every time I tried to sleep, I just dreamed about the whole situation.

I don't think it will ever be easy to lose a child. You need to talk with your fellow co-workers, hospital chaplain, your manager, or anybody who will listen. Cry if you need too (even men cry). Take a few days off if you have to.

It wasn't until I talked with a lady at church that I was able to cope. She simply looked at me and said, "Schroeder, you and I both know that that child is up in heaven right now and he is more alive than what he ever was here on the earth." When I have a peds death, that's what I think about that child running and jumping and laughing while up in heaven.