Obese children...my rant - page 4

by Gently.me | 14,879 Views | 80 Comments

Ok so child comes in with laceration to the hand. 12 years old, about 5'5'' and weighs 260lbs. Big boy. The MD who was suturing was not his PCP, just there to take care of the urgent task. As she wassuturing, the child keeps... Read More


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    This also just brought back a memory for me. I used to go to the gf's house a lot for dinner. Well all over the bench tops & table when we were eating there used to be cakes and buns there all the time. If a child is seeing that, and is used to that, they are going to want to eat it and not think it is wrong - it's not wrong as such - but it does encourage them to eat the wrong things more.
    Also my gf used to dish out HUGE portions. I'd be putting 2/3ds of it back and they would have 2 helpings of a main meal, bread, salad and dessert, plus drinks on top of that! We never had extra food at home to do that.
    I've never understood how people can eat so much and not throw up.
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    Quote from Horseshoe
    "It's so easy to talk about it and it is so not easy to do it."

    Okay, please note that I'm not picking on you, I'm just focusing on this sentence, which I've heard many many times.

    SO WHAT if it's not "easy." Who ever got the idea that raising kids properly would ever be "easy?" It's NOT easy to do the right thing, whether that means feeding our kids healthy food in the presence of tantrums, advertising, and ease of poor alternatives, or expecting kids to help with chores, do their homework, adhere to curfew, whatever. It's NOT easy to raise healthy, productive citizens, but no one ever promised us it would be easy. Let's not do what's EASY, let's do what is RIGHT and BEST for our kids, and I can promise you that feeding our kids CRAP and giving in to tantrums demanding junk food, sedentary lifestyles, and the power to make decisions for the family is NOT doing what is right for our kids.

    Let's not go for easy, let's go for what's best for our kids-and trust me, whether they are 2 years old or ten, they do NOT know what's best for them. That's our job, and it is NOT "easy" to figure out and enforce. If we're not up to the job, fine, admit it, and just don't have kids. Being a parent is not for the faint of heart!


    Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!! Especially the last line!!! So much to add to that, but wouldn't be directly related to childhood obesity, so I won't get into that here...
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    And let's not forget that obese children too often become obese adults. Then they come into our ER's at 600 lbs because they are short of breath. Shocker. And we have to have 3 people holding up their belly fat (while trying not to breathe because the odor is so horrible) while the doc tries to dig around for their penis, which is buried in all of their fat, in order to place a foley. (This just happened the other night). Forgive me, I know I signed up for this job, but I just feel like they are a huge burden on us. I know often it stems from a psych issue, but I cannot help but resent it. There is no way people like this can hold down a job. They cannot even move enough to get around their homes. So it's not that big of a leap to assume they are on food stamps, Welfare, Medicaid, etc. So let's be real people, WE are paying for their horrific lifestyles, as well as the honor of holding up their rolls of fat. This just sickens me to no end. And I apologize if I've offended anyone.
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    Health care disparities based on race, ethnicity, gender, and socioeconomic status exist even today. Let's not forget that when we are about to "assume" anything about the patients we provide care to. I am not excusing poor choices on the part of the patient, I am just pointing out that everyone doesn't have access to reasonably priced fresh vegetables, a fitness facility, and live in a crime-free area where they feel it is safe to go for a walk or let their children go outside to play.

    The person that doesn't work doesn't eat is what I believe, but sometimes a person's lack of working is not by choice. Look at the unemployment rate in our country right now. Some of the public assistance people receive is because they have NO choice.
    BTW, I've seen morbidly obese people who are not on public assistance as well. Can't automatically assume that the obese person you're providing care to is receiving public assistance.

    Just some "food" for thought
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    It's a very sad situation. Obesity as a child means usually means obesity as an adult.

    My husband was an obese child and so is/was my stepdaughter. My MIL and FIL were very poor, and they ate only homemade ethnic food. However, they ate constantly. Literally all the time. Lots of carbs (bread and lots of fruit). My husband doesn't remember a time when something wasn't being eaten in his home. At 13, he went on his own "diet" to his mother's absolute horror and walked every night. He was slim as a teen, but then ballooned again in his 20s and early 30s. Now, he exercises like crazy (about two hours a day walking, riding bike, etc.), and we eat only homecooked meals. My husband is very muscular and fit, but the years of being overweight have created a "tummy" that he fights constantly and has resigned himself to always having. I can see a six-pack on the sides of his abdomen that are covered up by a layer of fat in front! I think he looks scrumptious, but he's unhappy with the fat that he just can't get rid of.

    My stepdaughter was partially raised by my MIL and FIL after my husband and his ex-wife divorced, and so the disproportional weight gain began when she was small. My MIL insisted it was just baby fat, and nothing my husband nor his ex-wife could say about my MIL's "feedings" of my stepdaughter could change how she waved food in front of my stepdaughter's face all the time. Now, my stepdaughter is fighting obesity. She cooks her own food (often calling my husband for recipes), but she has a sedentary job that doesn't make it easy for her.

    Not having good eating/exercising habits early in life can condemn a child to being an obese adult or fighting weight issues forever.
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    I was also watching a talk show a while ago(can't remember which one) and the topic was obese children. They showed this 8 year old boy who was pushing 280lbs and he would eat a whole(adult size) rack of ribs and be ready for more. The mother would say no and the child pitched a fit. I find a lot of these obese children kick, scream and pitch fits if they don't get the food they want when they want it. They also showed a 4 year old girl who was in the upper 100's who would eat fried chicken, bbq type food(mac and cheese, pulled pork sandwiches pretty much anything you can find at a bbq style restaurant). Again this little girl would pitch fits if she didn't get her food when she wanted it...and she would want second and third helpings of whatever was being served(they were showing home videos of these kids eating and throwing fits). It's amazing how much these obese kids can eat, they can eat the amount of food that's fit for a family of five, not for one person. I think I would vomit if I even ate half the amount of food these children just wolf down like it's a snack.

    Now I am not going to lie, I occasionally eat at a fast food restaurant but it's not every day, maybe twice a month.

    They need to change the slogans around (get rid of just say no to drugs) it should be just say no to your obese child. Because that's what many parents struggle with...saying no to these children because they would rather give in than say no and get an earful...it's like the child is in control not the parent. It's just a sorry state of affairs all around.
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    You would think, as a parent, if you had a child that was obese you would be thankful and excited that the kid even asked for a salad in the first place. For her to just flat out refuse him like that, she's pretty much conditioning him to eat crap. Thats just inexcusable and lazy. Period.
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    Quote from R!XTER
    And let's not forget that obese children too often become obese adults. Then they come into our ER's at 600 lbs because they are short of breath. Shocker. And we have to have 3 people holding up their belly fat (while trying not to breathe because the odor is so horrible) while the doc tries to dig around for their penis, which is buried in all of their fat, in order to place a foley. (This just happened the other night). Forgive me, I know I signed up for this job, but I just feel like they are a huge burden on us. I know often it stems from a psych issue, but I cannot help but resent it. There is no way people like this can hold down a job. They cannot even move enough to get around their homes. So it's not that big of a leap to assume they are on food stamps, Welfare, Medicaid, etc. So let's be real people, WE are paying for their horrific lifestyles, as well as the honor of holding up their rolls of fat. This just sickens me to no end. And I apologize if I've offended anyone.
    I've always wondered..how in the world does someone let themselves get like that?? I mean c'mon! They must know they are killing themselves. I've got to say, it does make me believe food can be a real addiction. Is it really so different then the meth addict or heroin addict shooting up 12 times a day? I also agree, society in general should not have to support this kind of behavior. If a person is gonna kill themselves, well I can't stop you but don't make me and my family pay for it too.
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    Quote from sprinkles85
    i was also watching a talk show a while ago(can't remember which one) and the topic was obese children. they showed this 8 year old boy who was pushing 280lbs and he would eat a whole(adult size) rack of ribs and be ready for more. the mother would say no and the child pitched a fit. i find a lot of these obese children kick, scream and pitch fits if they don't get the food they want when they want it. they also showed a 4 year old girl who was in the upper 100's who would eat fried chicken, bbq type food(mac and cheese, pulled pork sandwiches pretty much anything you can find at a bbq style restaurant). again this little girl would pitch fits if she didn't get her food when she wanted it...and she would want second and third helpings of whatever was being served(they were showing home videos of these kids eating and throwing fits). it's amazing how much these obese kids can eat, they can eat the amount of food that's fit for a family of five, not for one person. i think i would vomit if i even ate half the amount of food these children just wolf down like it's a snack.
    i've seen children like this on talk shows or read about them. this doesn't sound like the typical overweight child who just eats too much junk and sits around watching tv or playing on the computer. it sounds like there is a physical problem here related to the satiety centers in the brain, or possibly something off with the leptin process. eating such large amounts without an ability to ever find satisfaction is a pathology, imo, rather than gluttony and really screams for professional intervention. i don't know that a parent could handle that problem without significant support.
    kids, not.done.yet, DizzyLizzyNurse, and 2 others like this.
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    http://healthyamericans.org/report/88/

    It's the RWJ Foundation annual report on obesity in America, if you're interested in reading up on the subject. They cover racial,ethnic disparities, geographical disparities, culture, food availability. It makes for interesting reading.


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