Dating in the O.R???

Nov 03, 2008 04:57 PM

by galenanurse

Hi everyone!

I know crazy question...

It seems like the OR is a universe of it's own,and people really get to know each other like a tight knit community. Are strong relationships formed, dating, marriage, has this ever happened in your OR???

It seems like it would? Does anyone have any input, or interesting stories?

Thanks for sharing

Jen

linda2097 · Nov 03, 2008, 06:51 PM

Re: Dating in the O.R???

Generally, it is a bad idea to date a coworker. This applies to any occupation. Think of what it would be like to work with an EX-boyfriend. It would probably suck.

SquirrelRN71 · Nov 04, 2008, 01:44 AM

Re: Dating in the O.R???

Funny, we were just discussing this the other day in my OR..

Hope no one gets offended but I believe you dont s**t where you eat.

( a southern nurse taught me that expression, and while it's crude, certainly gets the point across!)

cjg10RN · Nov 06, 2008, 10:19 AM

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In my opinion, "You don't get your sex where you get your checks."

galenanurse · Nov 06, 2008, 03:36 PM

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Thanks guy's, that was funny!

fracturenurse · Nov 06, 2008, 09:23 PM

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Yes, I knew an anesthesiologist who left his wife and a nurse who left her hubby so they could be together. They are now married...

RNBeachGirl · Nov 08, 2008, 08:10 AM

Re: Dating in the O.R???

I think dating in the OR could be fun. It would make going to work great! I would just be honest with the other person and agree that if things didn't work out, someone would leave. Personally, I am married and would have taken the risk had my husband worked in the OR.

ShariDCST · Nov 10, 2008, 09:30 PM

Re: Dating in the O.R???

Originally Posted by fracturenurse

Yes, I knew an anesthesiologist who left his wife and a nurse who left her hubby so they could be together. They are now married...

My first job out of CST school 15 years ago was in a small community hospital OR in a nearby town. One of the anesthesiologists, a particularly handsome and charismatic Spaniard, was married to the OR Supervisor! One of the girls I graduated with in my CST class, along with a male classmate, all started our first jobs at this hospital.

The female classmate was married with a child, but she was very seductive (among other things) in her behavior around other men, usually flouncing around in clothes that were entirely too tight, too short, and too revealing, even in class. (She had been the subject of much gossip and speculation during school - I had no part in that, I only overheard what was going on, I didn't participate.) I stayed at this hospital a little over a year, until a position opened up at a hospital closer to my home.

Several years later, I ran into someone who had recently left the same hospital I started at. During the course of our conversation, I found out that the female classmate had ended up being divorced by her husband and losing custody of their children (she'd had one more soon after graduating from school) to him. The anesthesiologist I mentioned had gotten a divorce from the OR Supervisor, MARRIED THE CLASSMATE,

who was quite a bit younger than him, and he had to go to work at another hospital. The OR Supervisor had left the first hospital because of all the gossip and fallout from that debacle; the classmate who married the anesthesiologist was hated by her in-laws for being what they considered a 'home-wrecker' and was not even allowed to visit them with her husband when he went home to MADRID to see them,

because they wanted no part of her. (I have no idea who did what to whom first to cause all this - I have a feeling it was about equal on both sides though from watching both of them while I was there, before they even became intimate with each other.)

I can't imagine a more twisted, convoluted turn of events, and a more unhappy ending to it all. I have no idea what's happened to any of them since then. But this is all true - I couldn't make that disaster up if I tried! Can you say "Jerry Springer" material??

linda2097 · Nov 11, 2008, 10:48 AM

Re: Dating in the O.R???

Originally Posted by ShariDCST

I can't imagine a more twisted, convoluted turn of events, and a more unhappy ending to it all. I have no idea what's happened to any of them since then. But this is all true - I couldn't make that disaster up if I tried! Can you say "Jerry Springer" material??

I don't understand why unfaithful people get married in the first place. If you can't stay with one person, stay single for crying out loud.

Alisabeth · Nov 19, 2008, 09:37 PM

Re: Dating in the O.R???

I met my husband in the OR. I started as a new grad in 2006 and we met shortly after I started working there. He only has 2 neurosurgery days a week, so it's not like I had to be around him every day. It worked out fine! We just got married 8-8-08! There are 2 other girls who started with me as new grads too who also married surgeons. I recommend it!

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