Dating in the O.R???

linda2097 · Nov 3, 2008

Generally, it is a bad idea to date a coworker. This applies to any occupation. Think of what it would be like to work with an EX-boyfriend. It would probably suck.

GadgetRN71, ASN, RN · Nov 4, 2008

Funny, we were just discussing this the other day in my OR..

Hope no one gets offended but I believe you dont s**t where you eat. :smokin: ( a southern nurse taught me that expression, and while it's crude, certainly gets the point across!)

cjg10RN · Nov 6, 2008

In my opinion, "You don't get your sex where you get your checks."

galenanurse · Nov 6, 2008

Thanks guy's, that was funny!

$fracturenurse$ · Nov 7, 2008

Yes, I knew an anesthesiologist who left his wife and a nurse who left her hubby so they could be together. They are now married...

RNBeachGirl · Nov 8, 2008

I think dating in the OR could be fun. It would make going to work great! I would just be honest with the other person and agree that if things didn't work out, someone would leave. Personally, I am married and would have taken the risk had my husband worked in the OR.:redpinkhe

ShariDCST · Nov 11, 2008

yes, i knew an anesthesiologist who left his wife and a nurse who left her hubby so they could be together. they are now married...

my first job out of cst school 15 years ago was in a small community hospital or in a nearby town. one of the anesthesiologists, a particularly handsome and charismatic spaniard, was married to the or supervisor! one of the girls i graduated with in my cst class, along with a male classmate, all started our first jobs at this hospital.

the female classmate was married with a child, but she was very seductive (among other things) in her behavior around other men, usually flouncing around in clothes that were entirely too tight, too short, and too revealing, even in class. (she had been the subject of much gossip and speculation during school - i had no part in that, i only overheard what was going on, i didn't participate.) i stayed at this hospital a little over a year, until a position opened up at a hospital closer to my home.

several years later, i ran into someone who had recently left the same hospital i started at. during the course of our conversation, i found out that the female classmate had ended up being divorced by her husband and losing custody of their children (she'd had one more soon after graduating from school) to him. the anesthesiologist i mentioned had gotten a divorce from the or supervisor, married the classmate, :uhoh21: who was quite a bit younger than him, and he had to go to work at another hospital. the or supervisor had left the first hospital because of all the gossip and fallout from that debacle; the classmate who married the anesthesiologist was hated by her in-laws for being what they considered a 'home-wrecker' and was not even allowed to visit them with her husband when he went home to madrid to see them, :nono: because they wanted no part of her. (i have no idea who did what to whom first to cause all this - i have a feeling it was about equal on both sides though from watching both of them while i was there, before they even became intimate with each other.)

i can't imagine a more twisted, convoluted turn of events, and a more unhappy ending to it all. i have no idea what's happened to any of them since then. but this is all true - i couldn't make that disaster up if i tried! can you say "jerry springer" material?? :bugeyes:

linda2097 · Nov 11, 2008

i can't imagine a more twisted, convoluted turn of events, and a more unhappy ending to it all. i have no idea what's happened to any of them since then. but this is all true - i couldn't make that disaster up if i tried! can you say "jerry springer" material??

i don't understand why unfaithful people get married in the first place. if you can't stay with one person, stay single for crying out loud. :uhoh3:

Alisabeth, BSN, MSN, DNP · Nov 20, 2008

I met my husband in the OR. I started as a new grad in 2006 and we met shortly after I started working there. He only has 2 neurosurgery days a week, so it's not like I had to be around him every day. It worked out fine! We just got married 8-8-08! There are 2 other girls who started with me as new grads too who also married surgeons. I recommend it! :)

Ruby Vee, BSN · Nov 20, 2008

i met my husband at work, too. we've been together for 14 years this christmas. but i understand the sentiment that it would be truly difficult working with an ex-lover!

about the same time dh and i started dating, one of the cardiac surgery fellows was dating a pa in the or, 2 icu nurses and a floor nurse all at the same time. it was entertaining for all of the rest of us, watching these three women fall all over themselves to get more of his attention than the next one. ny eve was a train wreck, though. he'd asked the pa out for ny eve, then had a fight with her so he asked one of the icu nurses instead. the other icu nurse got cancelled at the last minute, so she went over to his house where he was in bed with the first icu nurse, walked into the bedroom and started throwing a fit. the next week, the two icu nurses were fighting at work about who did what to whom . . . entertaining but very unprofessional.

personally, i cannot understand why you'd want to be one of four people that someone is dating!

ShariDCST · Nov 20, 2008

ny eve was a train wreck, though. he'd asked the pa out for ny eve, then had a fight with her so he asked one of the icu nurses instead. the other icu nurse got cancelled at the last minute, so she went over to his house where he was in bed with the first icu nurse, walked into the bedroom and started throwing a fit. the next week, the two icu nurses were fighting at work about who did what to whom . . . entertaining but very unprofessional.
personally, i cannot understand why you'd want to be one of four people that someone is dating!

i have yet to understand why two women would want to fight each other over a man who's obviously not interested in being monogamous to anyone. :icon_roll it goes on all the time - in all levels of society and economic strata - and the man stands back and watches them catfight each other over someone that should be kicked to the curb, and he gets a "big head" over being the object of such attentions. the best thing that could come out of this is that the word would be out on him and his shenanigans, and make him about as desirable as a case of mrsa.......:chuckle

imho - if i were to discover that nonsense going on, i'd be walking away, never to be seen in such company again. (but i've been married for 32 years, so that is about as likely as me being elected president!) and what do they get in the end? who "wins"??

besides, when you go waltzing into someone else's home, uninvited, you tend to see things you have no business seeing - and you generally get what you deserve.............. :nono: